Harry is one of my primary mentors.
His example is a motivator
for taking time and energy to write my own blog,
and the many hours I spend to share the writing of others.
Below are 7 days from Harry’s blog during February 2018:
2018 Feb 07:
When I was little, I loved to tear things apart to see how they worked. Sometimes I could never get them back together the way they were, but I usually figured out how they work.
As I grew older my love to see how things ticked grew stronger. When I was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s my interest grew into trying to figure out how we could live with Alzheimer’s and still live a productive life.
I had many failures, but the solutions started to form in my head. I sought the reasons why I was having a bad day and found ways to help illuminate them. I tried so many things and failed but never gave it a thought to quit trying.
After 14 years I found inner peace but my thirst for knowledge has not been quenched. I need to find ways to teach others how to find the happiness I did.
February 9, 2018
I’ve been busy this week, not raising dementia awareness but doing things for myself. I researched so many bird feeders that I would love to build for my flower beds. This year I will build one to prevent the squirrels from robbing them.
I drew up plans for a pergola with a swinging bench, but I saw a nifty swinging chair that I may build instead of the bench. Either way, that pergola would look nice beside my holly tree.
I got the itch to start seeds indoors and sit and watch them grow. I say this every year but never seem to get around to do it. This may be the year.
I have dementia but I also have so many dreams.
February 10, 2018
Living with any form of dementia is hard, but you can do it. Never let the bumps in the road distract you from the wonderful life you have. We tend to forget about the great things happening in our life because we allow the shadows to overcome us.
Always look for the light, any little thing that brightens your life and you will find that you can live beyond your diagnosis. Smile at your problems and you will find a way to conquer them.
Learn to like yourself regardless what anyone may think of you. Their opinions don’t count, only yours.
February 12, 2018
I completed the first of several bird feeders that I’m making.
February 14, 2018
I live my life following the seven pillars of Sente-Mente ®. One of the key aspects of this project is the importance of understanding “behavioral disorders” as forms of language. When some of the thought functions “turn off” the person searches for other ways to communicate.
The person we “define” as aggressive, agitated, angry, or weeping may be reacting to a need, request, emotion, or discomfort:
– an environment that annoys or disturbs them;
– a physical illness that they cannot communicate;
– an emotional need that they are unable express.
When the person you are caring for shows behavioral problems, they may be trying to tell you something. Learn this new language to improve the care you provide.
February 20, 2018
Life can’t get any better when you are sitting out on your deck on a warm sunny day. Your trusty dog laying by your feet keeping an eye on anything thing is moving in the yard. You have your shades on listening to Willie Nelson without a care in the world.
You found your inner peace and although living with the diagnosis of Alzheimer’s, you have no concerns with the future. You can’t help but think what lies ahead and in my case it’s the raised garden tables I would like to build to put into the imaginary greenhouse I would like to have so I can start my flowers from seeds.
It’s strange how nature gives me Hope and takes away the fears that this terminal disease they call Alzheimer’s has over me. I read the book and it tells me I shouldn’t be this happy and looking toward the future the way I do. After 14 years I should have lost most of my cognitive abilities and be bed ridden, or most likely, dead.
Not me, I am no one special just a person with a passion and a love of life. My passion is so great that I want to share my secrets so maybe they can help others. Next year I want to be sitting on my deck on a sunny day, looking up at the clouds and thanking my Lord for giving me the time to do so.
February 22, 2018
I need to laugh when someone tells me they know what I am going through. You only see and hear what I tell you. There is no cookie cutter image of someone living with dementia, everyone of us is different.
You see me not as someone living with Alzheimer’s because, that is the image I want you see. You can’t climb into my head to see how I feel or if I have any other troubling problems, so you need to use other visual methods to check on my wellbeing.
Try talking to me if you suspect a problem knowing I may not want to let you know. Observe a difference in eating or sleeping which could point to a problem. Most important, take notice of my emotional state and learn to read my body language.
Remember you don’t know me, only the person I allow you to see. Don’t be satisfied with the person you see, they may be hiding a problem.
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Above is excerpted with his permission, from Harry’s blog at >> http://mythoughtsondementia.com/blog.html
His Index of pages on my blog is at >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/harry-urban/
Photo is of Harry’s craft project finished 03 Feb 2018.
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