For Best Concentration NEED Frequent Toilet Trips

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For most people, Best concentration happens when there are no distractions.

i am trying to remember to make FREQUENT trips to the bathroom, because Pressure in bladder or bowels can distract from concentration needed in other everyday processes. 

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Until dementia symptoms i did not need to think about swallow process, or walking, reply to casual comment, etc.   … but now that is changing. 
Discovered that each of those processes requires concentration, and i need to have full concentration on my priorities, so i need to avoid trying to work on something while my brain is distracted by holding in body fluids or solids.

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Now, whether i feel the NEED or not …
i make a trip to the bathroom BEFORE eating or drinking
(so that all my concentration can be devoted to swallowing). 
i make a trip to the bathroom BEFORE taking time to sit and talk with my husband
(so that all my concentration can be devoted to communication). 
i make a trip to the bathroom BEFORE sitting down to work on a blog entry,
and before going outside to walk around while doing chores, (less likely to fall) etc. 
… This allows maximum focus for whatever task is at hand.

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i am trying to establish the frequent bathroom trips as a ROUTINE now, while i still have this ability to establish routine on my own.  i probably make a bathroom trip most every hour.  This avoids the pressing need of a bathroom trip as distraction.

When i forget, My care-Partner might remind me to wash my hands before we sit down to eat, and while we are there i should stop at the toilet before washing my hands. 

i recognize that change is inevitable.  In later stages, of course, my care-Partner will be joining me on the trip to wash my hands and stop at the toilet.

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Side-notes:

i have also noticed the benefit of side “grab bars” on each side of our ADA toilet; 
Along with facilitating body movement to sit or stand, these bars can be useful to help empty bladder and bowels. 
We THINK we are done on the toilet, but if i grab the bars and bear down with pressure pushing or pulling … i discover that i was not done after all.  This may feel like “too much information” but has been very helpful for me. 
Running water in the sink can sometimes be helpful for emptying bladder.

Maybe if i go to the bathroom and empty my distractions then i will think of a clever close for this article, LOL .  

LINKS:

https://www.plumbingsupply.com/creating-a-dementia-friendly-bathroom.html

from a doctor >> https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/managing-your-memory/202101/how-manage-incontinence-in-dementia ;

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Dementia Stages and Inconsistencies

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. i am often asked about this so …

3 stages: i like the version shared at >> https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/stages .

5 stages/CDR:  Clinical Dementia Rating evaluates cognitive and functional performance in six areas: memory, orientation, judgment & problem solving, community affairs, home & hobbies, and personal care.  Table 6.2 at >> https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/medicine-and-dentistry/clinical-dementia-rating .

7 stages/GDS: The Barry Reisberg scale is 7 stages, also known as the GDS – or Global Deterioration Scale for Assessment of Primary Degenerative Dementia. >> https://www.fhca.org/members/qi/clinadmin/global.pdf . (SUMMARIZED here in a strictly “Alzheimer’s” context >> https://www.alzheimers.net/stages-of-alzheimers-disease ).

7 stages/FAST: The Functional Assessment Staging Test uses activities of daily living (ADLs) to determine stages of ALZHEIMER’S, and also co-relates score of MMSE (the short mini-mental screen given at doctor’s office).  >> http://www.mciscreen.com/pdf/fast_overview.pdf .

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With the more complex staging scales, Most of us living with dementia are in several “stages” of dementia simultaneously, because our swiss-cheese “holes” in the brain create many inconsistencies.

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INCONSISTENCIES:

i speak haltingly, but i can still speak quicker than what i can understand someone else speaking. 
i think recently my words flow better typing with a keyboard than they do flowing out of my mouth verbally

My ability to write is much better than my ability to understand what i read.  
i started typing before age 10, and by 12 years old i was typing forms and letters for our family business.  so i still write/type a blog entry almost every week, but when i am interrupted while writing a paragraph, that paragraph often makes no sense to me when i read it back to myself to refresh my memory in order to finish the paragraph.  … So my ability to write is much better than my ability to understand what i read.  

Every person had things they did very well, and sometimes those abilities carry over to better functionality in those particular areas, which can distort guesses of dementia “stage”.  (Altho i was in accounting, and number-ability is one of the first things i lost.)

Personally i have Loads and Loads of dys-Abilities, but my ability to figure out a graph or pictorial representation is still above average. So i cannot understand the WORDS when husband tries to tell me something, but if he can make it into a picture then i can understand.  My ability to understand visual concepts is much better than my ability to understand spoken (audio) concepts.

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There are huge “stage” inconsistencies in dementia abilities, and also, some types of dementia carry the characteristic of tremendous variation of abilities throughout the day, that are not consistently shown on any particular day (thinking Lewy Body here but there may be others).  LBD can hit many ability levels during any given day, with strong abilities at unpredictable times.

On the 7-stage GDS scale, lack of remembering grandchildren’s names and last names of married daughters, along with not recognizing my husband would have put me in stage 5 for past 5 years or so, and my other abilities probably fit more in stage 4.  But i have very good coping strategies and my last testing about 3 years ago still indicated Mild Cognitive Impairment (stage 3 on GDS scale).  of course my Grandmother tested well enough that she did not get a dementia diagnosis until her Activities of Daily Living were quite impaired  and my mother had been caring for her a couple years (probably about 2000).

Personally, i think the 7-stage versions of dementia progression cause much more confusion than they help.  So i think of dementia in 3 stages instead;
there is “early-stage” with few symptoms, and strategies for any particular symptom have only needed revised a few times. Many folks can still drive in early stages (but i suggest frequent evaluations to make sure they are still safe).
Middle stages cover lots of ground,
… then end-stage (also known as late-stage).

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LINKS:

 

Mayo Clinic “Stages” at https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alzheimers-disease/in-depth/alzheimers-stages/art-20048448

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May Pages 2021

Tru here.  Been a HARD month of change and loss.  In addition to my weekly Blog Entries, these “pages” were added on my website during May 2021.

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My favorite Links for Memory, Family Recognition, etc at >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/d-info/links-sx-strategies/memory-links/

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Jennifer Bute, with “Changes after Self-Isolation” at >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/jennifer-bute/changes-isolation/

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Dementia Mentors’ member Marsha York will be missed >> https://truthfulkindness.com/memoriam/marsha-york-memoriam/

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Loss of Smells and Taste

UPDATE: i could still fully taste fruit when i began preparing this blog entry last week, but during the past week am losing the taste for fruit also … i just get brief tantalizing tastes of a moment of two … then another moment.  But all the in-between is lost.  … and instead of the complex realm of a specific taste (like strawberry) i am getting the acid but some of the other tastes are gone, which totally changes the way a strawberry tastes.  Tremendously discouraging … altho not too surprising.  ***

Tru here.

i have always been VERY oriented to smell. 
As a child, my nose was used for sniffing out ants and several other things in the household. 
as i got older it was my privilege to create personalized fragrances for family members. 
Then came dementia symptoms, and after years some changes in my ability to smell.

i noticed a few scents that no longer had ANY smell for me. 
First was spoiled meat of the venison-type about 6 years ago (~57 years old)
then i lost the smell for 3 of the essential oils used in my personal fragrance about 4 years ago.
… then this, that, and any-other-thing (including body odor and ants, LOL). 

Now (in 2021) there are few smells that i can actually discern.  i realize those particular smells are also probably on short-term borrowed list, so those smells are highly valued.

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… and the same is true with tastes. 
About 3 years ago i noticed that i no longer appreciated that wonderful yeast-y taste — the smell and taste were just GONE. 
Then about a year ago i lost the taste of CHOCOLATE.
Noted no smell or taste for chicken beginning the first week of March, and hamburger shortly afterward,
Now … MOST tastes are gone.
i cannot smell or taste the standard varieties of meat, or eggs, or cheese, or gluten-free bread, etc
— but i can still smell and taste raisins, mandarin oranges, and strawberries.  

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So the main thing i still have is TEXTURE, and sensations of Sweet and Salty, along with dwindling taste for fruits.
i still enjoy the rough specific-ness of thick-cut oats (even though i no longer taste the oats) — so i add a few more raisins. 
i no longer TASTE the soup, but i still enjoy the wonderful combination of textures when my thick cauliflower soup is combined with hamburger crumbles., etc. 
i cannot taste the chocolate or the coffee in my coffee-chocolate protein drink, but
we still add the coffee because i get a brief after-taste of the cold-brew (not bitter)
and we still add the chocolate because i like the creamy smoothness of TEXTURE.

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This is a huge change of focus in eating, but it is also time to decide..

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Continue as before … OR make changes.

On special times (like breakfasts with Dad, after spending the night with him on the train engine) i would eat rich french toast made with thick-cut slices of bread or fluffy waffles.  Either were topped with hot fresh apple sauce and cold ice cream.  i have denied myself foods like this for about 10 years – because i have celiac disease and also going for the Keto LifeStyle (which better fits with my high needs for protein).  … But now i am quickly losing the receptors for tastes.

if i had known that i was this close to losing all taste sensations in the dementia process, i think i would have splurged more often in the past two or three years. 

if i had it to do over again, after losing 2 or 3 tastes, i would probably get glutened (on purpose) and start ENJOYING those tastes while i still had the ability to enjoy them (even at the cost of substantial gluten discomfort).  i realize the gluten TEMPORARILY intensifies cognitive symptoms for those with celiac disease … but this way i totally missed out on those tastes.

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So i have decided to get glutened AND splurge with blood sugar (within certain boundaries). 
it is time for evaluation of which tastes i am still able to enjoy – including those tastes from foods with gluten. 
Then i can better decide how often i will balance Best Practices … with taste desires.

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Wrote the above on May 16 and 17May 
PS after being glutened: 
17May2021: Cannot taste anything of pizza, except the pineapple; no taste of crust, tomato paste, cheese, italian seasonings spices, etc.  
17May2021: Discovered i cannot SMELL corned beef (which strongly reduces the taste, and mostly cannot taste it, but in the very far corner of right side, i can taste corned beef very fleetingly. 
18May2021 now losing taste for raisins; just taste very briefly after 3rd bite … then taste is gone again. So frustrating because i could taste them well a few days ago. 
18May2021 can taste something in SloppyJoes, but for very few moments. 
19May2021 can taste something in Grilled Cheese sandwiches (maybe the butter??) and creamy Campbell’s Tomato Soup (seasonings??).
20May2021 Absolutely no taste left in my Coffee/Chocolate protein drink — but i still like creamy texture and temperature. 
21May2021 Strawberry taste has changed from 2 weeks ago; no longer able to taste the good part, and most of what is left is an acid-type taste. 
21May2021 No taste of French Toast.  No taste to whipped cream — texture but no taste.  And no taste to sugar-free syrup. 
21May2021 Able to taste the sauté onions in Corned Beef hash with Sweet Potatoes. 
22May2021 Able to taste Mashed potatoes from Finger Gold Potatoes WITH peels
22May2021 Able to taste the gravy with flour, smoke flavor, garlic, sage, and Campbells’ French Onion Soup. 
23May2021 Able to taste smoked beef ribs made with hickory and rosemary.
03Jun2021 Able to taste Ranch Dip, but not much of Reuben Sandwich or french fries.
04Jun2021 Able to taste huckleberry jam and condensed Peanut Butter powder.
05Jun2021 Able to taste BBQ Salmon with Asparagus.
08Jun2021 i was able to taste BBQ steak. 
13Jun2021 Able to taste various fruit IF similar fruits are gathered together; cannot taste ONE grape, but THREE grapes i can taste.  14Jun2021 Able to taste corn tortillas and corn on the cob 

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LINKS:

Fragrance Craft and my Nose at >> https://truthfulkindness.com/2016/10/28/fragrance-craft-and-my-nose/

Sensor for Body Odor at >> https://truthfulkindness.com/2018/03/26/sensor4-body-odor/

from a doctor >> https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/managing-your-memory/202103/when-dementia-diminishes-smell-and-taste

Might check out “Food/Eating” category of my favorite Links for strategies, alphabetically by symptoms at >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/d-info/links-sx-strategies/ .

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Early Swallowing Problems

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i have been dealing with slowly progressing dementia symptoms for over 20 years now.  New symptoms are always traumatic.

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… in past week have noticed unpredictable problems swallowing.  Not at any specific time of day, etc.
First it was SOMETIMES when swallowing pills, then sometimes when swallowing just a hot or cold drink with nothing added. 
In my case, the drink is not “stuck” in the throat, instead, i am unable to trigger the muscles to begin a “swallow” routine.

For ME right NOW, swallow problems happen when i am trying to do something else at the same time

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A few moments ago i got up from sitting position and realized urgent need to go to the bathroom, but i was also trying to swallow the drink that was already in my mouth. 
Trying to hold the pee in … while swallowing … did not work so well.

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So my husband told me that i am functioning better than 80% of the population;
he said “Dont be so hard on yourself.  You are trying to do 3 things at one time. 
1) Walk to bathroom 
2) Hold in the pee
3) swallow the drink in my mouth. 

— He thinks i am doing exceptionally well, because most people cannot walk to the bathroom and hold the pee in, let alone do something else at the same time.  ((LOL))

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 ***  in the future, i will try to make sure i am not trying to do anything else (at the same time) BEFORE i put the drink in my mouth.

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Difficulty in swallowing is called “Dysphagia” >> https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysphagia .

VeryWellHealth mentions on DysphaGia and DysphaSia (impaired Language) ; “Both of these conditions are caused by neurological damage to the brain that comes from an injury or a stroke. Both dysphagia and dysphasia are treated by speech therapists and both have to do with a person’s ability to control muscles in the mouth and throat.  >> https://www.verywellhealth.com/first-aid-phraseology-dysphagia-vs-dysphasia-1298200 .  i realize that may be a bit too generalized, but here is a Link with much more detail >> https://gi.org/topics/dysphagia/ .

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… you might also want to check the “Swallowing” section of my favorite Links for strategies, alphabetically by symptoms at >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/d-info/links-sx-strategies/ .

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Color as Strategy

Tru here.  In answer to a question about bathrooms.

Those of us living with dementia have big problems with both guessing distance/range and seeing color on same color.

THANK you for trying to find out the WHY of what is happening. !  
As Persons Living with Dementia (PLwD) our brain is dying.
We are in the earlier phases of brain-failure, and the brain processes visual data as well as every other sense. 

What our eyes see is interpreted by the brain,
and this is probably a brain-failure issue.

Your Loved One NEEDS to have the bathroom door a different color than walls; possible problem of distance perception.  It is surprising how many of us have nightmares of not being able to find the bathroom door.

He needs to have toilet and toilet seat a different color than the floor and walls; again a distance perception issue. Otherwise eventually he will not even be able to FIND the toilet, let alone lose his marksmanship.  

Same is true of plates on the table; very beneficial to have plate different color than the table (or tablecloth). And it helps to have trash bins a different color too.
Several folks have insisted that their loved one throws trash on the floor out of anger, and that is POSSIBLE, but unless the care-PARTNER is actively researching why we (as PLwD) do things, it is very easy to blame .

Personally i still have a bit of distance perception remaining, but it is going fast;
i dont realize i am setting my mug on the very edges of table (because placement of the “edge” is all wonky).
My “estimator” for everything from where the corner of the wall/door is, to time needed to dress for an event is broken (probably because requires CONTEXT of past experiences, and that is all going haywire).

Important to remember that your Loved One’s abilities are changing, and it feels like as soon as we get some strategies in place to help a specific symptom, then our brain deteriorates more and that strategy becomes less effective, and needs adjustment.

Husband says “New strategies need to be developed constantly; keep your strategies current, for which specific issues you are dealing with.”
Symptoms change, and those constant changes feel like walking a tightrope every single minute of every single day. 
i know it is exhausting for care partner, but it is also extremely exhausting for Person Living with Dementia (PLwD).

 

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retired doctor Jennifer Bute vid at https://vimeo.com/228785408

2-min vid by Norman MacNamara at https://vimeo.com/108706946 ; 

… and of course my Link Listing for strategies, alphabetically by symptoms at >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/d-info/links-sx-strategies/ .

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April Pages 2021

Tru here, with pages added on my website during April.

 

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Admin Pages are below.

Links on Dementia Diagnosis issues at https://truthfulkindness.com/about/d-info/links-sx-strategies/links-on-dementia-diagnosis-issues/

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Dementia Symptom Perspectives’ Pages:

Harry Urban with “Bridge Between Two Worlds” at https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/harry-urban/bridge-2worlds/

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Michelle Montgomery “Preparing with Song” at https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/michelle-montgomery/preparing-with-song/ ;

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Family History Pages:

Petrin< Wester: “Earliest Wester on Tree” at https://truthfulkindness.com/about/life-other/family-history-index/earliest-wester-on-tree/ ;

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Where are You?

Tru here.

…  All i know is that i am alone with no idea of when SOMEONE will return …

Even if husband is simply taking a shower (in Garage), or a nap (in the bedroom)
i constantly forget where my husband said he was going.

i have no concept of time passage, so i dont know whether he has been gone for just a few minutes, more than an hour, or all day. 
This can be a frequent cause of anxiety.
When i start checking places where he might be, then i forget which rooms, or areas of our property that i have already checked
… and i am checking them over and over again, but not checking the one place he IS.

i am alone.

…  All i know is that i am alone with no idea of when SOMEONE will return …

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So i need simple frequent reminder for my memory. 
Husband took a spiral pack of note cards.  (( https://www.amazon.com/Bazic-Spiral-Ruled-Index-Card/dp/B00NABR7LQ )).
Alphabetically, on separate pages, the spiral has various places he might be; Chicken Yard (which is in the far back of our property), Front Yard, Garage, Grocery Store, Hardware Store, Nap, Pharmacy, Shower (in Garage), WellHouse (south end of property), etc.
Because we add additional locations frequently, we intentionally left blank pages between locations.  This allows all entries to be alphabetical.

Eventually WE will need to add picture for each word (and i think this would be a good thing to do together), but this works at my current “normal”. 
He sets the spiral at my workdesk, so that every time i look up, i see the card showing where he is. 
This has worked well for several years (as long as we remember to use it, LOL).

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We use the same strategy when traveling even to the bank or grocery store.  My sister made a cloth-backed chalkboard, that stays rolled up in the passenger door.  If i am left in the car, or in the hotel room, he writes where he has gone.  When i am feeling my most clingy, then he will also write the time for his return.  >> http://www.sspecialgifts.com/Travel-Chalkboards_p_26.html .

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Money Control with Dementia

Tru here, with my own experiences on negotiation of Money and HouseHold Finance issues.

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i worked in Accounting, and husband and i had worked together building money-management confidence for years before dementia entered the picture,
but with my dementia symptoms:

i dont remember which bills have been paid, and which bills have not been paid. 
we had a wonderful system that i was able to handle for several years despite mild dementia symptoms,
… but then could not remember where to find records, or HOW to work my system. 
So now someone else needs to do all of that.

i dont remember buying things, and i dont remember receiving things … so sometimes i buy the same things AGAIN.

i am not an impulsive buyer — but now there are more exceptions to that rule.  

i have always been very thrifty, and i am aware that the above symptoms can create disaster. 


Additionally, Money can be a big-ticket item in relationship,
and i do not want that to interfere with our partnership.

 

Financial security is very important to me, however i recognize my lack of money-management skills, therefore, at MY request,
My name is no longer on any of the “Family” bank accounts.
But this is a problem because Art and Crafting is a HUGE outlet for me, and I very much hate asking for permission to buy crafting supplies.

… SOOoo i have a (Low-Limit) credit card that is just for me, but Limit was negotiated between partners.
i dont travel, but i use it onLine (Amazon) so that i can feel that i have some choices:  
i can donate for personal causes without asking permission from anyone. 
I buy my own specialty foods. 
I buy supplies for crafting.   

The bank sends eMail to our JOINT e-mail each time a purchase is made, so that my husband can keep an eye on household finances.  Card holder determines which eMail the bank sends notifications to.  In our case, receipt is sent to the family eMail which is set to go to BOTH my husband’s and my own phone.  ((We have one eMail address associated for both of our iPhones.))   This helps us both feel confident that we are staying within agreed boundaries.  This has worked well and, because of the trust that we have developed, we have no problems with our money partnership.

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LINKS:

Math Problems by Truthful Kindness at https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/10/27/symptom-math-problems/ ;

vid by Barry Pankhurst at https://vimeo.com/112595471 ;

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About Visits

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i would like to spend time with family and friends, but …

Needs to be mostly at my home, because “unfamiliar” places bring more symptoms and extra fatigue.

Needs to be only a few visitors at a time (3 or less for me with my current “normal”) because extra people moving around “scatter” my thoughts too much.

Covid: Since covid often hits those with dementia tremendously hard (over 25% of the covid deaths in UK were folks with dementia), probably need to set up agreed covid parameters for the visit.

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TIMING: 

Time-of-Day is an important aspect of visiting.  What are YOUR best hours for visiting??
… mine are in the morning, because later in the day my fatigue can make communication much more difficult; understanding words becomes more of a problem, as well as finding my own words to speak.
Personally, i always take a nap to extend my abilities, so 11am to 1pm will usually find me pretty sleepy also.

For ME, If inside the house, then needs to be short visit — no more than an hour at a time, with my current “normal”, unless extenuating circumstances.
Outdoors visits can be longer, if i have the option to disappear into an “alone” space for extended periods of time.

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Noise:

For ME, i need to have no other sounds going on in the room if indoors  — no music PLEASE if we want to talk.  No simultaneous conversations.
My brain has lost the ability to prioritize sound for what is important and what is not important.
There is no such thing as “background” noise.

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Dementia Awareness: 

Would be good if visitors could remember that dementia is brain failure, and Brain Failure is a progressive condition.  Each “normal” will decline with time to a “new normal”, and need changes on strategies that have worked in the past.
… This repeats over and over again as conditions change.

There are a few solid constants in life, but most aspects of life change with time; that is just how it is with life on earth.  Please learn a bit about dementia symptoms and strategies, so that i am not the only one trying to make adaptations.  Check out the Links at the bottom of this article.

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.  Recognizing Visitors:

My husband knows i mostly do not recognize the way he LOOKS (because i am looking for the younger man i married), but if he wears green pants and hat, then i am more likely to recognize him.

i do not recognize the way my sister Michelle LOOKS, but i recognize her voice.  If i am looking more uncertain of things then it would be a good idea for her to find an excuse to start singing “They Call the Wind Maria” — we sang that a lot.  ((smile))

Julie could remember aloud all our hours of washing and drying dishes, singing songs, and pretending we were “house fairies” to surprise Mom with a clean house.

in younger years, i mostly saw my Uncle with a cowboy hat on his head.  So i am more likely to recognize him now if he is wearing a cowboy hat.

That sort of thing will make our visit much more comfortable than me wondering every few minutes … who are these people again ??

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Communication

Would be very nice if visitors were aware of some of the communication challenges with dementia.
If others are aware of adaptation needs then it can help tremendously.
This is Part 1 of my “Communication” series >> https://truthfulkindness.com/2014/12/12/verbal-comprehension-strategies-1/ , with parts 2 and 3 listed at the base of article.

i especially crave touch in past few years, but with covid concerns that might not be an option … and i may need reminded of that factor.

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Activities:

Always good if visit can have planned activities.

Inside Activities:  Eating is the usual indoor activity during visits, but if family we could review Family History topics.  Would love to make some photo books, but just have not found the time to do it.

For longer visit, can eat, then watch an old movie together ((nothing too violent or with intensely suspenseful music for long periods of time)) … then eat again.  Movie time, or music time, is not the time for communication, but since i need to eat every 2 hours then by the end of a movie it is time to eat again … and talk.

We could take photo during the visit, then clear the table and MAKE a page for photo binder.

Outside Activities:  Outside visits are especially nice if we are doing a project together like planting, clearing branches, picking up pine cones for craft project, moving chickens, etc.  Our fire pit is huge so lets have a hot-dog roast, and i even have some pork-free marshmallows !!!

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Memory:

Yes, it is true that i may not remember your visit, but the feelings from your visit can remain for longer time.
When it has been a long time between visits, i FEEL more distant from that person;
i cannot tell you WHY, but i can tell you that that person just does not feel as much a part of my life.  ((That is another aspect that lack of TOUCH very strongly affects.))

It is also nice if there is some visible reminder of your visit — that item repeatedly reminds me that you were here.  — Daughter might leave hand-decorated note on microwave or fridge. ((smile)).

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LINKS:

non-PLwD: Teepa Snow has a YouTube series called “Making Visits Valuable” which i think is excellent.  at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUgPm8RMa48&list=PL2E2lPBsUeBjA1Utglo8q6yANAijEf8cX .

non-PLwD: Dr Daniel Potts (neurologist) has poem at https://danielcpotts.wordpress.com/2021/03/27/you-chose-to-listen/ ;

check “activities”, “communication”, and “relationship” sections at INDEX of Sx Links >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/d-info/links-sx-strategies/  ;

non-PLwD: DailyCaring at https://dailycaring.com/visiting-someone-with-alzheimers-dos-and-donts-for-visitors/ ;

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