Person-Centered Strategies

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My most useful strategies are those that are very person-centered. Graphic below began with the person-centered graphic we used in Dementia Action Alliance’s white paper of “Living with Dementia: Changing the Status-Quo” found here >> http://daanow.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/Living_Fully_With_Dementia_White-Paper_040316.pdf
Really appreciate “Wings of Prayer” drawing by Sunny Chandra, of Singapore, and meditation drawing from McNair Scholar’s Rock.

General tool: Muscle-Memory.
Specific tool: computer graph paper.

Learned to type at ten years old, so muscle memory for that is very deeply embedded.  i was business student of the year during high school, and proficient on all business machines.  25 years ago i was my company’s expert in using computer spreadsheets (digital graph paper where you fill in rows and columns).  My brain needs only little effort on remembering how to use this software tool because muscle memory for those functions are still automatic.

So, for right now, my biggest complications are remembering what project i am working on, what step i am in the project, and WHERE i saved pertinent information.  With decline in use of Lotus software (spreadsheet program i knew best), transfer to Microsoft Excel program, and that software’s continual evolution, muscle memory does not help when software loses capacity to use Lotus functions.  But right NOW, a computer spreadsheet is still a useful tool … for this particular person, with this history, set of talents, and interests.  Most folks are surprised that written lists are becoming less and less helpful for me … but a computer spreadsheet is still helpful.  I think a lot of that is because it cannot be lost or left behind (along with ability to sort by different criteria).  Digital backup is always filed in computer according to dewey decimal system (which others can help me with if i forget).  My most crucial tools are also on cell phone.  One of the biggest problems is that many women’s clothes no longer have pockets large enough for a cell phone … especially if pocket already holds dog-training treats and handkerchief.  LOL !

I think compensation tools need to be extremely person-centered.

General tool: relationships.
Specific tool: spiritual life.

Theology has been a major interest since the summer before i turned six years old.  So my spiritual life is not only a strong sustaining factor for me, but actually part of my compensation TOOLS for dealing with discouragement and loss of activities/behaviors that i strongly associate with my personhood.  It surprises some folks, but while most aspects of my life are declining, my spiritual life is still continually growing.  See separate blog for my spiritual journey.  >> https://tlk4spiritual.wordpress.com/

Again; effective tools are extremely person-centered !

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Newest Writings

I have been very busy with my Service Dog trainee, Dementia Mentors, Dementia Action Alliance, and Dementia Chats.  But just because I have no recent blog entry postings does not mean there is nothing new to read from Truthful Loving Kindness.

NEWEST  PROJECT

SUFFERING and Pre-View of Book “Dancing With Elephants”

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Have read early pre-view for first 3 chapters of Jarem’s thought-ful book “Dancing with Elephants:
Mindfulness Training For Those Living With Dementia, Chronic Illness or an Aging Brain”.

Tru here. I just pre-ordered book thru Amazon because Jarem has offered FANTASTIC bargain;
Great Mindfulness Package to anyone who buys the book and emails him (great.mindfulness.dancing@gmail.com) a picture of their receipt before March 12, 2017!”

  • A More Healing Way – audio/video series – Jarem interviews other authors on facing death, disease and chronic illness ((Tru here: interests me personally because includes videos from both Patch Adams MD & Jon Kabat-Zinn, among others))
  • Access to a live, 60-minute webinar on “Mindfully Facing Life and Death” with Q&A with Jarem
  • Audiobook read by Jarem ((Tru here: very helpful for my own comprehension to have both visual reading and audio hearing of same words simultaneously))
  • All the digital editions of the book (kindle, nook, ipad, pdf) ((Tru here: personally much appreciate Kindle tools))
  • 30-day Dancing with Elephants Journal and Workbook

Preface is that my dementia symptoms make reading comprehension difficult, and was pleased to discover manuscript is separated into bite-sized pieces that do not appear to need a whole lot of memory retaining past paragraphs in order to process current paragraph.  I use the Kindle “NoteBook” tool, so appreciate access in that format.  But most important is that it will be available in audio format as well, allowing 2 sensory inputs simultaneously with same words.

So far, it reminds me of my two other favorites; As in “I asked for wonder” by Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel, it is chock full of jewel-like quotes that are oh-so-applicable for my life.  As in “Deeper into the Soul; beyond dementia and Alzheimer’s toward Forgetfulness care” by Nader Robert Shabahangi PhD, the author asks reader to look at dementia (and in this case “suffering”) from a completely new perspective.

Jarem Sawatsky PhD looks at dementia, loss and suffering thru eyes of person with Mennonite beliefs,  strongly trained in Peace-building, and healing Justice.   Since his diagnosis with a terminal disease, he has been blogging at Dancing with Elephants, exploring how peacebuilding and mindfulness insights might help those facing chronic illness, dementia and aging. His influences include writers such as Thich Nhat Hanh, Paul Kalanithi, Anne Lamot, Atul Gawande, John Paul Lederach, Jean Vanier and Lisa Genova and singers like Leonard Cohen, Passenger, Norah Jones, and Adele.

INTRO excerpts which are my favorites:

  • “When you find out that you are dying from an incurable disease, a kind of clarity can emerge. It is the clarity to distinguish between what matters and what does not matter. … This book chronicles what I see as important. It is my cheat sheet for facing disease and aging in a healing kind of way.”   ((Tru here.  I have also spoken of that separation of priorities.))
  • “… laughing, and stumbling my way into healing.  Not the kind of healing that takes away the disease but the kind of healing that awakens the heart to love.”
  • “Suffering is real and must be faced head-on.  But suffering alone is not enough.  On the other side of suffering can be joy — and also more suffering.  We must learn to dance with both.”
  • “Our culture offers abundant advice on how to achieve financial and career success, but there are very few books on how to embrace the downward path of losing your mind.  We have success tips for leaders, but almost no “success tips” for the billions of us facing disease, dementia, and aging.  This book explores the art of dancing with elephants.  I invite you to join me in this dance.”

Embracing the Hard Things (chapter excerpts):

  • … it requires substantial mental (and sometimes theological) gymnastics for people to be able to justify a view of the world in which uncomfortable or unpleasant things shouldn’t happen. …
  • The temptation to try and insulate oneself from the hard things remains both common and understandable, but I still don’t want to run from the storm.  I don’t want to run from the hard things.  Healing is not the absence of the storm.  Healing is the way we ride. …
  • We cannot learn to revere life if we cannot wrap our hearts around the idea that suffering exists.  The art of dancing with elephants is not the elimination of suffering.  We don’t kill the elephant.  We learn to dance with it.  All living beings suffer.  To revere life, we cannot remain in denial but must understand that suffering and death are inevitable.  This truth is not the end of the story but it is a necessary starting point on this journey. …

…   ***   …

Looking forward to finding many more “jewels” in remaining chapters.

Pre-ordered at https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0995324204/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&psc=1&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER

Jarem’s most-recent blog entry http://www.jaremsawatsky.com/more-healing-way/

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Why DAA Dementia Action Alliance as priority?

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Tru here.  Most persons who know me well realize that I have three dementia organizations in my priority list;
1) Dementia Mentors has top priority,
2) Dementia Symptom Perspectives =my project of sharing perspectives from individuals who have dementia, and
3) Dementia Action Alliance

If I am asked to invest in projects for organizations other than the above, my answer is almost always “no”, because I would need to re-assess time and energy priorities.

I have already shared about Dementia Mentors in many ways, but lately quite a few of my friends have been asking what makes DAA (Dementia Action Alliance) different than other organizations, and why I am willing to invest so much time and energy in these projects.   http://daanow.org/

Many dementia-oriented organizations have admirable goals and values, but for me there are three things that stand out about DAA, differentiating them from other good dementia organizations, which also have good goals:

  1. One thing is first half of the first goal from the five goals listed on the website; WORK directly with individuals who have dementia … 
  2. But top priority for me is the last half of the first goal listed;to learn from and amplify their first person perspectives about dementia.
  3. Fourth goal listed is “CREATE, curate and post free person-centered dementia support resource materials online”, which is excellent goal.  But to me the third important element which differentiates this organization is their definition of “person-centered“, … to include holistic emotional, social, physical, cultural, sexual and spiritual dimensions.

DAA puts priority on amplifying voice of PWD (Persons With Dementia), and that is a very high priority in my own life, and in my project of “Dementia Symptom Perspectives”.

I am a work-a-holic, and I come from a long line of work-a-holics.  Before joining the DAA Advisory Council, I had averaged about 150 hours per month in my “work” gathering and preparing Dementia Symptom Perspectives NewsLetter … along with my daily activities for dementia mentors.  That may not sound like huge investment to some, but considering the extra hours consumed by daily tasks with complications from dementia symptoms, my family was demanding I make a change.

Dementia symptoms were also complicating my abilities to complete the NewsLetter tasks, demanding greater and greater time investment until at last the NewsLetter was months out of date, and I recognized that I no longer had the ability to complete even that last issue.  I must drop the newsletter project WITHOUT a last issue.

At the same time in my life, early to mid 2016, opportunity at DAA arose.  It looked like there was a good chance I could share perspectives of those with dementia symptoms even more effectively as a member of the DAA Advisory Council, than I had been with the NewsLetter, so I was very happy to accept the position.  I am still spending hours gathering listings of projects from PWD Persons With Dementia, but no longer try to compile them into the NewsLetter, since I have lost those abilities.  Now I simply add them on my matrix, and try to share one project daily on Dementia Symptom Perspectives’ page in FaceBook.  From time to time organizations ask me to reference my matrix for an entry on topic they are looking for, and I spent about 20hrs at the end of year, re-organizing matrix to make it easier to access.  I am trying to figure out an efficient way to share the information.  During 2016 I did not keep up nearly as well with gathering projects, but in 2017 it has returned to higher in priorities.  Meanwhile I am investing in DAA projects to “amplify” perspectives from PWD.

“The DAA is a diverse coalition of passionate people creating a better society now for individuals to LIVE with dementia.”
This mission is well-reflected in past and current projects for the non-profit organization.

Past projects (some of which I participated in) are detailed at this Link >>  http://daanow.org/accomplishments/.

And current projects are reflected by the current workgroups at Link>> http://daanow.org/daa-workgroups/ ; Arts, Optimizing well-being, Technology, …

… And of course one of the primary current projects is the “Re-Imagine Life with Dementia” Conference being planned for June in Atlanta.  Link>> http://daanow.org/north-american-dementia-conference-technology-showcase/ .  At this time, 55% of the sessions include individuals living with dementia as a speaker, and WE (I am one of the speakers) will have profound information to share.  Personally, I will share a time slot with my friend, Laurie Scherrer, speaking on the compensation strategies we each use to live our best moments every moment of every day.

Caring Conversations in local communities is an important current project (Link)>> http://daanow.org/caring-community-conversations/

And the new Caring Conversation Toolkit (Link)>>http://daanow.org/product/daa-dementia-toolkit/ is now for sale.
Toolkit has booklet for Person With Dementia, handbook for family & friends, Conversation cards, and inspiring video. Each of these elements is also sold as stand-alone product (check bottom of page).   This series of products have just come out, and I am awaiting delivery of my own Toolkit (( smile )).

Caring Conversation Toolkit above is a product with a price tag, but anyone can watch the finished video project “Person-Centered Matters” (both 7-minute and full 16-minute videos) here >>  http://daanow.org/an-extraordinary-video-about-dementia/  .

All-in-all, I think the past and current projects admirably reflect mission, vision, and goals of DAA Dementia Action Alliance.

There are several levels of participation available with DAA.  Of course, money donations are always helpful, but personal involvement for Person With Dementia could be in the responsibility of Advisory Council (Link)>>  http://daanow.org/advisory-council/ if there is a current opening, or as Consulting Partner (Link)>> http://daanow.org/daa-partners/ , or simply participation in one of the work groups (Link)>> http://daanow.org/daa-workgroups/ .  All positions are deeply appreciated and have great input in achieving the goals above.

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Denial and One Sided Truth

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Denial is an organizational problem as well as a personal problem.  This problem is compounded when organizations and persons in our periphery are determined to promote only one side of “Truth”.

Tru here.  Since my last blog entry was expressing my anger at showing only the narrow, extremely negative side of life after dementia diagnosis, it is now appropriate to express frustration at organizations and persons that only share the most positive times and the most positive possibilities of life after dementia diagnosis, remaining quiet about the horror stories.  They have a right to determine their own policies and goals, but I think it often does the cause of advocacy a dis-service to promote only one side of the full picture.

When living with a dys-Ability
HOPE is crucially important for living each moment in a positive manner,
But … unless the person fully accepts a foundation of true REALITY
to build that hope upon,
their hope becomes a root for bitterness.

(Many quotes on subject of hope, and many on reality,
but cannot find anything similar to this in quote collections.
So I guess I will claim it for Truthful Loving Kindness on  January 29, 2017.)

Friedrich Nietzsche said, “Hope in reality is the worst of all evils because it prolongs the torments of man.”  Leo Tzu said “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality.”  But, my favorite is Albert Einstein’s quote, “Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”  I truly believe that if you and your care-partners  do not learn from your own yesterdays, and the yesterdays of other Persons With Dementia (BOTH negative and positive) then, as a Person With Dementia,  any hope for a brighter tomorrow is false hope — and the root of bitterness all too frequently seen.

True education involves intimate acquaintance with the big picture; acknowledging ALL crucial factors involved.  Without true understanding & ACCEPTANCE of the negative as well as the positive possibilities “Living Well with dementia” is usually just denial and pretending.

All of us revert to pretending at times, and it is possible to use pretending — and acting on that decision — as a constructive tool.  But often pretending is disastrous for everyone involved, as it can produce denial and unrealistic expectations from everyone involved, including yourself.  Truth is that life is, in itself, NOT fair … and it never has been fair.  There IS lots of horror in our stories of dementia — if we tell the whole story.  But currently that is not the popular activist slant, so only shared by a specific section of advocates (like in the funding documentary I discussed in my most recent blog entry).  In my opinion, sharing only the”Living-Well” narrative is little better than the tragedy-only narrative, because in order to get to the “Living Well” stage, one must recognize the whole picture and CHOOSE to accept the negatives but focus on the positives of current moments.

To live for today, as either Person With Dementia, or care-Partner, we need to AGM4H.:  ACCEPT GRIEF MOMENTS … 4 HOPE

ACCEPT dys-Abilities:
Without acknowledging the negative aspects of reality,
and allowing ourselves to go thru the process of grief
— repeatedly, at each step of our growing dys-Abilities from dementia symptoms,
we cannot ACCEPT those dys-Abilities, own them as ours,
and find whatever work-arounds might be possible to live the best moments of each day.  

Own the GRIEF for tomorrow:
Grieving, owning today’s dys-Abilities, then owning tomorrow’s dys-Abilities thru anticipatory GRIEF ,
better allows us to personally participate in preparing tomorrow’s more severe work-arounds. 

Enjoy MOMENTS of today:
Confidence that we can relax about the future and anticipate hope for the best tomorrow in a realistic way
allows us to focus on the contentment from MOMENTS of today. 

… & Create HOPE 4 tomorrow.

Put these together; A.G.M., and then we have put into action Albert Einstein’s quote,
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”  

Personally, I see many advocates unwilling to share stories from Persons With Dementia (PWD) unless the PWD is telling the positive slant that they want.
I have lived with dys-Abilities all of my adult life, and agree that most every human has dys-Abilities, whether they recognize them or not.  Most dys-Abilities among the public would be considered “invisible” disabilities.  In order to find work-arounds to continue life in the most positive ways possible it is important to recognize those dys-abling areas .  However, I have encountered a number of people who have the attitude “so what is the big deal; adapt, find strategies and live with your diagnosis just like the rest of us” — they really do not understand the progressive nature of dementia.  Few people have any concept of LBD’s hallucinations at early stages, and vivid night terrors that linger in the mornings, or looking at a loved one and being certain they are an imposter (capgras symptom).  Many people NEED to hear the horror side of the story, because telling only half of the story is not telling the truth, whether that half is the positive slant or the negative slant.

Even those planning on ending their own life need to have their stories told.  I do not agree with that decision, based on my personal theological beliefs.  But true education involves objectively sharing the horror story validating that decision to end a life, just as much as sharing our strategies for “Living well” despite growing dys-Abilities … it is the other side of the same coin.

Omitting one side of Truth is not really telling the truth, it is telling the PART of the truth that we find convenient for our personal goal.  I think an organization or person who promotes one side of truth over the other sides of truth, regardless of which side they are promoting, needs to recognize that fact, and own whatever consequences might occur for omitting other factors in the big picture.

I have the feeling that if I could retain these different paragraph thoughts, I could put them together in a more cohesive way.  But unable to retain them long enough to do that.  Same thing with the sentences within each paragraph LOL.  I recognize those facts, but I choose to focus on fact that, with assistance of reading them aloud, at least I can understand one sentence at a time LOL.  Putting together wording for this blog entry took slightly over 8 hours (plus breaks for dog etc).  Now I am ready to attempt a graphic.

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Film Review for “Alzheimer’s: Every Minute Counts”

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Tru here.  Viewing titled documentary, “Alzheimer’s: Every Minute Counts” from position of slowly progressing cognitive symptoms that are still considered to be in Mild Cognitive Impairment range, strong symptoms of Lewy Body Dementia, and mild-to-moderate cerebro-vascular disease.  I lost two maternal grandmothers with dementia.  I lost my job and Driver’s License in 2000, after what we theorize was my first small stroke in February 1999, and have slowly decreased in cognitive abilities since that time.  Yes, I suffer with hallucinations, from not recognizing my husband a good part of the time, difficulty recognizing my image in mirror, balance issues, cannot drive, cannot use stove or oven, cannot babysit without another adult present, etc.

… Lots of things I CANNOT do, but there are also lots of things I CAN do; I am admin for Dementia Mentors, member of the Advisory Council for USA’s Dementia Action Alliance, and regularly appear on recorded Dementia Chats.  I care for my chickens (with back-up from husband in case I forget) and self-train a Service Dog to facilitate my recognition of husband, and help me know when something is a Lewy Body hallucination … or reality.  He will also be providing balance-assistance during my daily exercise (when he gets a little older).  I am a good grandmother, mother, wife, etc. and enjoy creating my own designs for both yarn projects and projects on paper.  Very busy lady watching this film.

Section A: Review of the film trailer …  BEFORE viewing the entire documentary:

I got very angry when i saw the trailer for film documentary, “Alzheimer’s: Every Minute Counts”, which is to be shown tonight by PBS (2017 Jan 25). Personally, I think this trailer exemplifies misunderstandings which produce the stigma that my friends and i fight most every day. The music builds anxiety, then words like “wither away”, “combative”, “escalate-violent”, “panic”, “going to kill us”, and “it will take us down”, add to the building anxiety.  Understand need to generate funding, and totally agree that finding cure for the various types of dementia is an imperative need, but this trailer feels like panic-mongering. Probably the majority of these are totally true words, and appropriate to some specific situations, but it seems that they are only choosing situations that have reached crisis-mode, as emotional tug-strings.

I hope they have counselors available to deal with the need from callers who are newly diagnosed and have not yet discovered that there CAN be productive life for an unknown amount of time after diagnosis.  It’s just that the new life after diagnosis has growing differences from how life looks before diagnosis.  And those differences get progressively more difficult as diseases progress.

Additionally, it feels like emotions from the trailer lump together the disease, and those persons who have the disease, which can create disastrous results.

Understand need to generate funding — but i feel that telling only end-stage SECTION of the dementia story, in this strong dramatic fashion, does much more harm than good.  Probability is very high that more people will watch the trailer than number who watch the entire show. Thus, effects from the trailer itself become an issue that very much concern me, and should have concerned the producer and sponsors, etc.

Section B:  * … *  AFTER viewing the entire documentary  * … *

Was able to watch early preview of entire show.  I would discourage those with new diagnosis from watching this film.  The first 10 minutes had me absolutely furious, but my anxiety level had much decreased by the end of the film.

At seven (7) minutes into the show Dr. Beau Ances, from Washington University School of Medicine talks about how “… it (Alzheimer’s) really goes to the essence of the person”; “It takes away … who that person is.”  Then he (Dr. Ances) states, “They (PWD) are really almost a shell of themselves.”

I exploded at that statement.  I object to, but can understand use of terms like “demented” (used later in the film) that feel demeaning but can technically still be accurate according to the dictionary. However a “shell”; Almost all of the person’s BEHAVIORS can be totally gone, but implying that the person’s true essence is gone and only “shell” remains is totally undocumented theory.  I have spoken about this earlier at https://truthfulkindness.com/bnp/part-3/bnp-3d-2012-u/20150125-chris-mann-remember-me/ .

Then, at 8:25 on the film, daughter Daisy Duarte says of her mother; “I lost … the Mom that had me … five years ago.  Alzheimer’s is my second Mom.”  This statement reinforces concept that essence of the Person With Dementia is no more — only their dementia symptoms exist.

So how the care-partner treats the Person With Dementia (PWD)
becomes much less important,
because that person no longer exists.

They are no longer caring for the person
— they are caring for the dementia.  (( growl )).

I have been the “loved one” so accept Daisy’s loss of her mother behaving in ways that she recognizes as motherly, but the wording on a national broadcast should be more responsibly presented.

 Remainder of film was not nearly as distressing to me.  It had some respected names like Dr Rudy Tanzi, and those persons gave good information, but even in remainder of film, a good part of the included scenarios were un-necessary misunderstandings from lack of anticipation for problems — lack of training and no mention of work-arounds.  Very few of us are allowed to use stove or oven past very early stages (for numerous reasons).  Unrealistic expectations ALWAYS produce problems, with any type of disease … in fact, with anyone from child or elder, … to employee.

It is always important to know who you are dealing with (including the dys-Abilities from any diseases) in order to anticipate problems and prepare work-arounds … but also to maximize benefits on both sides.  Unfortunately, this film does nothing to dissipate the huge misunderstandings of definitions, or variety for types of dementia.  It does not generate ANY hope except thru the channel of a cure.  To a Person With Dementia, the message is clear; you personally have no hope for quality of life.  Give us your money and die before YOU are the person causing more of this crisis from within your own family.  It is your responsibility as a responsible citizen … to get money for a cure, then die before you can cause more of this panic.

Personally, I think it is now the responsibility of PBS to compensate QUICKLY with a film comparing this documentary I just saw, “Alzheimer’s: Every Minute Counts” with another documentary showing that there is life after diagnosis for all the major known types of dementia; Alzheimer’s as well as Vascular, Lewy Body, Fronto-Temporal, and others.  This second film should show variety of symptoms, show Persons With Dementia using work-arounds in private life, and employers using reasonable accommodation to facilitate employment as long as that employee has abilities to complete both essential functions of their job and stay healthy in the other aspects of their life.  The second film should show variety in dementia progression, from very quick progression, to slow progression like with Christina Bryden, who is still active in Dementia Advocacy well over 20 years after diagnosis.  A number of my friends are past their hallmark of 10yrs after diagnosis with Alzheimer’s, Fronto-Temporal, etc, but still very active in speaking, mentoring, etc.  Personally, I think this life purpose AFTER diagnosis may be a strong contributory factor to the slow progression of their symptoms.  Yes; symptoms inevitably progress and then our current work-arounds no longer work.  Find a new work-around for each dys-Ability presented, for as long as possible !!  After no work-arounds are available to facilitate that project — then find another type of task or project that you can invest in.  Something that can make you feel valuable.

It would be great for PBS to highlight work from online PWD groups like Dementia Mentors and Dementia Alliance International, to highlight helpful FREE YouTube videos available from Teepa Snow, and material like the “Caring Conversations Toolkit” available beginning today from Dementia Action Alliance (which itself carries a strong goal of highlighting the perspective from PWD).  It is important to highlight projects like Gary Joseph LeBlanc’s Hospital Wristband Project and some of the other really important projects for CARE of Persons With Dementia, while the cureS are being sought.  (Because personally, I am convinced that there will be no one cure; it appears that even for just “Alzheimer’s”, there is probably more than one cause.  Additionally, there is high percentage, even among “Alzheimer’s” patients, of autopsy showing they had other varieties of dementia along with their Alzheimer’s, further complicating the issue of finding a single “cure”.)

Yes; funding is imperative, but this film seeks funding while ignoring (and sometimes at the cost of) CARE, which is also imperative.  I appreciate the efforts to highlight need of funding.  I appreciate efforts by each participant of this film.  But … I strongly feel that PBS now needs to compensate for what they did, by providing equally impressive film on possibilities for quality of life after diagnosis, and providing both films in a complimentary manner.

I plan to mail a copy of this blog entry and a copy of the “Dementia Success Stories” booklet (online version at https://truthfulkindness.com/dementia-success-stories/ ) to PBS and major producers; “After viewing your program, I thought that you should be made aware that there IS life after diagnosis”.
Appropriate LINKS:
PWD Patient Organizations:
Amplifying the voices of Persons With Dementia:
Dementia Advocacy created by PWD Norrms:
Associations for Various Types of Dementia:
My own Blog Entries:

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Favorite Films and WHY

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Photo from our school’s annual musical, which was “Sugar” in 1975.  Belinda Petrin is my birth name.

Tru here.  I already started my listing of favorite songs in 2015, but need to further follow up on George Huba’s suggestions given at https://hubaisms.com/2015/08/05/some-things-you-might-do-before-you-have-cognitivedecline-mindmap/

Suspect all persons who are at-risk for dementia of any type would be wise to make a notebook of Favorites.  Personally, I need to compile other favorites … and why; songs, films, crafts, locations, flowers, foods, transportation, forms of exercise, etc.  Including my own list as an example

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FILM: Suspenseful music, violence, flashbacks, sub-plots, and multiple characters make it difficult for me to enjoy movies and shows, unless I have seen them many times. So on my cognitively highest-connecting days I will be adventurous and try new movies and shows, in order to get a larger listing of options for lower-functioning days when I need a repeat performance in order to enjoy watching TV. On my worst days, I enjoy scenery with music (not words), or the webcam at Monterey Bay Aquarium. http://www.montereybayaquarium.org/animals-and-experiences/live-web-cams/open-sea-cam .

In the past I have very much enjoyed dramas like Schindler’s List and The Postman. However, I suspect that I could no longer leave the movie playing.  I would need to turn it off or leave the room.
Even two years ago, I was able to enjoy the movie series with character Jack Ryan, based on Tom Clancy’s novels. In past few months, the violence and suspenseful music in some of them has become prohibitive. I need to turn them off before finishing. This is becoming true with more and more of my favorites, and I am turning to Disney children’s shows like “The Aristocats” and Rudyard Kipling’s “The Jungle Book” as alternatives. I remember putting together an acrobatic routine to songs from the Aristocats, when I was a little girl.  With my theatre combat classes as reference, love the choreography in the “Pirates of the Caribbean” series.  I think they are terrifically funny, LOL.  I have also discovered that I rarely enjoy movies that are categorized as “comedy”.  They just do not seem funny anymore.  So what DO I like, in order to build a movie library that I can enjoy in days that need to be slow days?

As some folks know, before I became a theatre major during my 30s, I was lead in our school’s annual musical during my senior year, “Sugar” (based on Marilyn Monroe’s “Some Like it Hot”) so that is probably top on my list.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UgjzHp4TVtk

My ideal role has always been “My Fair Lady” (made famous with Audrey Hepburn) . https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hYMSvyqHHwA .  I had script … and that script was memorized LOL .
Other musicals which myself or our family participated in (such as Oklahoma) also need to go on the list

Even before my great-grandmother introduced me to Louis L’Amour books at 6th grade, I have loved western movies, but obviously especially those taken from books of L’Amour, such as “The Sacketts“.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqRzW3VoSIc

Likewise, my husband’s favorite author is Edgar Rice Burroughs, so we were in theatre for opening night, and I regularly enjoy the 2012 movie “John Carter” of Mars. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXBZ2YZiXXE

I am definitely a fan of original Star Trek, with my favorite episode “All Our Yesterdays” (#23 from Season 3). I also very much enjoy the recent Star Trek movies, so would like to invest in copy of each.

I terrifically enjoy music and ballet or ballroom dance, so anything combining them both is a special treat, like Mikhail Baryshnikov’s Nutcracker and Swan Lake. Or I like anything with Fred Astaire, but especially “Daddy Long Legs” (read it in probably 4th grade). Most any musical with dancing or a “crooner” will be enjoyed, but especially Bing Crosby’s “White Christmas”, and I also like the choreography in digital musical, “Polar Express” (with all the railroad references from my childhood when Daddy took me to work with him several nights a year, spending time with the “hoghead” in the engine and controlling the throttle). Love most of the cartoon musicals.  “The Phantom Tollbooth” was introduced by my toddler’s pediatrician while we lived in Vicenza Italy, and of course “Fantasia” must be added to the list along with “An American Tail”, which combines my love of animals, musicals and family history.

 

… so … you get the idea. Document your favorites, but I think it very important to include WHY they are your favorites; what significance does this film have with your history and person ?

What movies could you put in a movie library?  Because the day will come when we do not even realize we watched the show yesterday; it will be brand-new AGAIN !!

 

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SONGS: In 2015 started listing of songs and their significance in my life at https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/08/25/music-is-connection-dementia-symptoms/

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Living in the Moment during 2017

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Tru here.
Kate Swaffer comment got me thinking about quotes to live by, which motivated these thoughts about living in the moment.

“TAKE ACTION on the fact that there are no erase and re-write buttons for your moments.

We can only live one moment at a time, so …

REMEMBER the past moments with fondness, and
ANTICIPATE the future moments enough to prepare,
… but don’t tackle tomorrow until it arrives.

TAKE SOME TIME.

ANALYZE to put your priorities into words you can live by.
CREATE something that will remind you frequently of those words, and
LIVE each moment in light of those priorities.
Only then are you best enabled to fully
APPRECIATE each moment while you are living it.

BUILD on the negative moments, as well as the positive ones.
Because the negative moments can either make or break you.

… TAKE ACTION on the fact that there are no erase and re-write buttons for your life.”
– TLK 2017-01/12

My perspective on adult life and moments probably began with toddlerhood and being told that the best way to prepare for being a Mommy was to ANALYZE behavior and actions of my own parents, neighbors and friends, and think about what works and what does not work in parenthood and early childhood education for life. Then, when I was 12 years old my father was diagnosed with cancer and given 2% chance of life. That changed my own priorities and first brought analysis of “What really counts in life?” >> “What really counts in my own life?”.  At 18 years old I was mis-diagnosed with a terminal disease. (I inherited fibromyalgia, and then first acquired several tick-borne diseases that year, after cutting trail for US Forest Service. At that time little was known about Lyme Disease and accompanying tick-borne co-infections from nature’s “dirty needle”, so it is now no surprise that I received a misdiagnosis.) This misdiagnosis created need to quickly take a look at my life at 18 years old. Analyze, prioritize, and put those priorities into action in order to live each moment that I still had, weighing my actions and thoughts by those priorities. Then I needed to find what work-arounds would help me continue living each moment to my fullest. So, most of my entire adult life has been lived with this perspective (except when I forgot or decided other needs were more important for the moment, LOL).

So I began with more vague set of life priorities and goals, which have become further clarified with each breathtaking discovery of who I was created to be, both genetically and environmentally. Each wonderful moment told me who I was in setting my priorities, and each terrible disaster further clarified it.

Naming has incredible meaning. When I was 50 years old, I took action on those priorities in a nomenclature way, and legally changed my name to reflect the English meaning for three Hebrew words, “chesed v’emet”. Now, when I hear my name, I am reminded of my priorities; what I want the sum of my life to reflect. How I achieve that differs in each moment, with the opportunities life’s circumstances bring … but “Truthful Loving Kindness” is what I most WANT to be – at my most basic core; “chesed” loving-kindness in the most truthful reliable way possible.

I wonder …
When I die, will my friends and acquaintances look back at my life and see “Truthful Loving Kindness” in each moment of my life … even after dementia symptoms peel back the onion to my most basic core (with all its human weaknesses)? I have made plenty of mistakes, and even spent several years with letting my area of weakness determine too much of my actions. Life has no re-write button, so what will the moments of 2017 show?

What will the moments of TODAY show? Right now, I will tackle the moments of noon on January 12, 2017. I will remember the past moments to make the best results, prepare as much as possible for the coming years, but LIVE this hour, this minute … and this moment.

 

Related LINKS:
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Focus on Essentials at https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/02/24/dementia-change-priority-pathways/ ;


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Self-Identity; Am I Still Me?  at https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/06/07/self-identity-am-i-still-me/ ;

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Importance of Communication with PWD at https://truthfulkindness.com/2016/01/26/import-communication-pwd/ ;

 

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My philosophy on Personhood at https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/09/11/my-philosophy-on-personhood-and-dementia-person-personality-perspective/ ;

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Value for Lived Experience of PWD at https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/04/06/value-for-lived-experience-of-pwd-as-contributor-to-dementia-friendly-community/ ;

 

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Impact of PWD Example at https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/06/23/impact-example-respond/ ;

 

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Time and Energy at https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/07/20/time-energy-consumption-dementia-symptoms/ ;

 

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Best-of PWD at https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/09/01/best-of-person-with-dementia-pwd-gone/ ;

 

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Minute at a Time at https://truthfulkindness.com/2016/12/23/min-at-time/

 

 

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Learned During 2016, for dealing with my own dementia symptoms

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SUMMARY:
(There can be many similarities in dementia symptoms, depending on type of dementia.
But remember that every individual’s swiss-cheese holes can be different.
These are discoveries applicable for ME this year,
so it is possible they might be helpful for someone else.)

Communication/ Relationships:
Strategies for when both husband and daughter away from house.
Names are a temporary adaptation, for people, animals, and objects. So find adaptations.
Set time limits for each visit, whether at my home or yours.
Relationship with various belief systems may revert to earlier status.
Effective communication can be a stigma-preventative.

Arts:
My music can be either individual instrument or voice, but rarely both together.
Playing “pentatonic” instrument can be almost addictive for me.
Even tho no longer ability to do certain crafts, seeing those supplies still triggers my creativity.
Find strategies to complete or embellish “borderline” projects.
When low abilities, watching movies is limited to oft-repeated shows, or scenery with no words.

Medical:
Tiny strokes can carry a blessing of learning how to best prepare for next step of progression.
Various purchases I have found helpful

 

Below is the DETAIL for above summary:

Communication/ Relationships:

  • Strategies for when both husband and daughter away from house.

1). If both husband and adult daughter gone (to work, etc) for more than a couple hours, I have call-in system.  If I do not call/text assigned person on the hour every hour, then they will attempt to call me.  If they cannot contact me then someone will drive over to physically check on me.
2). Son bought chalk-board for entryway, so I can remind myself of where husband has gone and when he will return.
3). Husband has bought his first-ever cell-phone this year, so that I can call him when needed.
4). Daughter posts schedule for her and grandsons on the fridge, so that we minimize scheduling problems.

  • Recently discovered more problems with names. Name REPRESENTS identity – it is not the identity itself, so do not panic.

1). Went thru all the red tape and $500 to legally change my name nine years ago, on my 50th birthday. Now sometimes I am not responding until I am called by my birth name of Belinda or my nickname Bindy.
2). I named my new Service Dog trainee “Partner”, but do not remember his name and call him “Hero” (my first SrvDog) – so now quit trying to remember new name and he is “Hero Partner”.
3). Sometimes not understanding the verbal selections for foods. These are the times that I will need a “cheat” book of pictures for what the standard side-dishes look like, because I may not recognize the words for “french fries”, “hash browns”, etc.
4). Since I often do not recognize husband in social environment, dog has been trained to find him.

  • Whether at my home or yours, one hour must be the time limit for visits, or consequences are too severe for balance beam of cost vs benefit in the visit !! Maybe I should make a sign for entryway.
  • Decorating “Christmas” tree stands large in my emotional context of family memories, and since I am repeatedly asking why I cannot have one, I decided to resume it despite knowing that I have theological “reasons” for quitting the tradition.
  • I think that communication is primary pivot-point for all the major topics surrounding the “dementia” issue today, one of which is stigma. Suggest we change the conversation from how can we “avoid” stigma for Persons With Dementia … into how can we ENCOURAGE respect for Persons With Dementia? Preventing or resolving these issues requires effective communication between persons who have dementia, and persons who do not have dementia. Too often folks do not realize communication is possible, then they need to learn tools to maximize the possibilities.

 

Arts:

  • Sound distortion has progressed to the point that I may enjoy ONE or at the most two vintage songs on my Favorites list. I can never handle music simultaneously with movement or talking from other people.  I can seldom handle music with more than one instrument, so enjoy a cappella and solo instrumental most.
  • Because the notes in the Pentatonic scale all harmonize with one another, there are no wrong notes. This year my husband gifted me with a Hapi Drum. The tone is similar to singing bowls or musical bells; another soothing pentatonic instrument to go with my lap harp, which has also been revised to a pentatonic scale.
  • Creating makes me feel alive, so I want to THINK that I can do sewing and stuff for as long as possible (even after I am not really capable of doing it).  At this point, My tremors have become too severe to do any kind of painting, or mixing for designing fragrances, without help. My memory for the beginning process of crochet has become poor enough that I now often need help with the cast-on process of new project. We bought sewing machine early 2016 … which has never been used. … and I do not feel bad about it, because seeing it there is HELPFUL for my health !! Even if I never have another day that I both have time and am capable of using it.
  • I have a box for almost-complete projects, and projects that only need embellishment. This is for when I need to craft, but do not have much capabilities available. One element of this box is rather “empty” coloring pictures, that I can fill with zentangle patterns … THEN color. This creates a picture that is more entirely by me, because I created much of the design inside the very open picture which I started with. An example of “Zentangle” is included in the Links.
  • Film: Flashbacks, sub-plots, and multiple characters make it difficult for me to enjoy movies and shows, unless I have seen them many times. So on my cognitively highest-connecting days I will be adventurous and try new movies and shows, in order to get a larger listing of options for lower days when I need a repeat performance in order to enjoy watching TV. On my worst days, I enjoy scenery with music, or the webcam at Monterey Bay Aquarium. (See link in listings at bottom of entry).

 

Medical:

  • Tiny strokes have given me an opportunity to prepare for symptom progression in a gradual way.  Compensation strategies and projects previously assigned to “the week after” gradually become integrated into my “new normal”, then new lower-level strategies/projects need to be found for during the week after an event.
  • Because phone reminders are too numerous to be constructive, have resorted to alarm clock for sleep meds
  • Cooking times chart on microwave, but problem remembering to use cooking glove (and HOW to use potholder, when scrambled). Had used pre-measured motel coffee packets & motel-sized coffee pot. Now using Toddy Cold-Brew Coffee which means nothing hot to maneuver.
  • We use blue-lid storage containers now for foods which meet my dietary restrictions, foods that do not meet those dietary restrictions have red lid. Cupboard doors removed in section of kitchen that holds supplies I use. (In son’s house, he painted cupboard doors with chalkboard paint, and that might be an option at earlier stages. It no longer works for me.)
  • …. Non-spill mug for me (16oz Aladdin Insulated Plastic Mug $11 Amazon)
  • Walker tray, so that when I am unsteady and need walker in house, I can carry things with me. (Yunga Tart Walker Tray on Amazon for $21.50)
  • EZ Laces No-tie, reflective, elastic shoe laces ($8 on Amazon).
  • Lots of wonderful night lights 😀
  • Fender Musician Series Ear Plugs – only the bullet-type work for my ears with extra-small canals ($7/pair on Amazon)
  • White Stag Women’s comfort-waist pull-on pant ($17 Amazon)
  • BSN Syntha-6 Isolate PROTEIN powder drink – Ice Cream flavor ($30/24 srvgs Amazon.

Remember:

Every aspect of life has a balance beam of cost vs benefit, and must be analyzed according to individual priorities of life. – Truthful L. Kindness 2016-12/30

 

LINKS:
https://truthfulkindness.com/2016/11/30/symptom-progression-strategies-2016-dec/ ;
https://truthfulkindness.com/2016/01/26/import-communication-pwd/ ;
http://hubaisms.com/2015/08/05/some-things-you-might-do-before-you-have-cognitivedecline-mindmap/ ;
https://truthfulkindness.com/2016/03/29/stigma-or-respect/  ;
Arts LINKS:
http://www.montereybayaquarium.org/animals-and-experiences/live-web-cams/open-sea-cam
MUSIC:
https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/08/25/music-is-connection-dementia-symptoms ;
https://hapidrum.co/hapi-drum-mini  ;
https://www.amazon.com/Mid-East-Nevel-Harp-with-Case/dp/B001D1WZ12  ;
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aub51qOyGtQ&feature=youtu.be  ;

ZENTANGLE: examples: https://truthfulkindness.files.wordpress.com/2014/10/20130723-zt-copy.jpg ;
Zentangle patterns: http://tanglepatterns.com/ & https://www.pinterest.com/tkindness/7454-doodles-n-tangles/ ;
Zentangle OPEN patterns2fill: https://www.pinterest.com/tkindness/745-open4-zentangle/  ;

Graphic: This “2016” frame by Sandy Hunter, specifically designed for filling with Zentangles.
Then I picked patterns for each digit of “2016” at http://www.tanglepatterns.com/
“2” filled with “CloudFall” by Linda Farmer (this pattern is almost too complicated for me);
“0” filled with “Pixioze” by Margaret Bremner, from design on hotel carpet;
“1” filled with multiple patterns;
“6” filled with “Florz” pattern by Marie Thomas

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This Holiday Season Context of History and Symptoms

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As little girls, others played with their Barbie dolls.  Instead, I created my index cards of historical and Biblical events.   I love history; history of words and history of events.   So I guess it is only natural that I devoted about 10 years of my life to Family History.

So, for me the Holiday Season is very wrapped up in Family memories, context in ancient scriptures, AND Family History.  My holiday season begins with ThanksGiving, and stretches thru to the twelfth night of Christmas, January 6.   So, while many of my friends have removed their holiday decorations by now, for me this is the middle of the Chanukkah/Christmas season.

This year’s changes in Holiday celebration.

  • Eight years ago, I began worship in the Jewish “Reconstructionist” tradition (but, for me including quite a few beliefs from Messianic, Chabad, and mystic Kabbalah). I remember that I have a theological reason, but when I ask why I quit having a tree, I forget the answer within a few minutes. I really enjoy the colored lights, ornaments, and tinsel, so with my extra tummy pain and fatigue from Lyme treatment this year, decided I would now resume the tradition of a tree.  This is my first Christmas Tree in almost 10 years (a German tradition, so it is in honor of my German paternal grandmother, Florence Michaelis). Since she used a plastic tree in later years, my grandmother often kept her Christmas decorations up until Candlemas on February 2, which was not surprising given both her parents were from Germany.   Then she sometimes switched ornaments and tree was full of Valentines for February. One year, the first day of March she replaced the Valentines with stuffed birds set inside nests she found prior years, and put her tree away the end of April, LOL. I especially enjoy the memory from the one year my workaholic father was home for decorating the tree. That year I was 11 years old, shortly before his cancer diagnosis, and he was too sick to work. We sang Carols as he lay on the couch, looking in the eyes of each one of us individually as he handed us each ornament. … So a decorated tree stands large in my emotional context of family memories, and I decided to resume it despite my theological “reasons” for quitting the tradition. This year, our tree ornaments will be removed and the tree will be taken to the porch for eventual re-potting … on the 12th day of Christmas; January 6.
  • I am trying to find holiday songs in a form I can still enjoy despite dementia symptom of sound distortion – so looking for either solo instrumentals, or acapella voice.
  • Since our children have become adults, we mostly quit giving holiday gifts – except for our young grandsons. But this year, during weekly Family Chat with Harry’s dementia Forget-Me-Not group, husband gave me a gift; a mini HAPI pentatonic drum. This has vibrating tongues of steel creating notes of sound, arranged so that each note is surrounded only by notes that are musically compatible with that individual note. The tone is similar to singing bowls or musical bells; another soothing pentatonic instrument to go with my lap harp.
  • As my dementia symptoms have progressed, so has my intolerance for noise and bodies around me. So, while a few years ago I could enjoy longer visits from loved ones, this year I discovered need to have visits limited to less than one hour, and fewer people. Must make restriction despite mutual enjoyment of spending time together, otherwise consequences are too great. I expect that time restriction will continue to increase as my symptoms progress.

 

LINKS:

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Drum: www.hapitones.com  & demo at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKdesbJiz0M

12 Days: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twelve_Days_of_Christmas

 

OTHER by PWD:

Laurie Scherrer: https://dementiadaze.com/2016/11/29/dementia-christmas-tree-analogy/

Kathleen Anduze: https://vimeo.com/193966991

George Rook: https://georgerook51.wordpress.com/2015/12/15/boing-boing-boing/

George Huba: https://hubaisms.com/2015/11/24/dementia-and-big-family-holidays-mindmaps-on-the-enjoyment-of-all/

Judy: https://www.facebook.com/208968049513072/photos/a.209532316123312.1073741828.208968049513072/216031178806759/?type=3

Jean Lyon: https://www.facebook.com/truthful.kindness/posts/10205052286285391

Myself: https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/12/22/drt-background-noise-2015-12/

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