Naming the Shamer.
in my opinion,
there is a huge vulnerability in sharing our thoughts online, so we must have hard shell to deflect criticism.
Regardless of my efforts to retain a positive attitude and attempts to find worthy topics to discuss on my blog,
every time i receive one of these letters Blaming and Shaming,
i find myself spending an hour or two in re-evaluation.
Yes; this person is obviously a Bully, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are always wrong in their conclusions.
PERHAPS she is right.
Despite my efforts to share from others, is this blog really self-promoting ?
Perhaps i really DON’T really have anything valuable to add to the conversation.
Obviously some folks feel that my blog is un-helpful and demeaning.
Is it worth the effort to write and SHARE my thoughts ?
Does it really assist folks now, or will it assist folks in the future ?
Is blogging really worth it ??
Online Bullying is becoming so prevalent that i have decided to begin naming names.
Rose was one of the first … and is also the most recent.
Rose Tyson (rose83616) began her negative comments with 8 paragraphs on 28 Apr 2015.
“I see no formal educational credentials that give credence to your right to speak as a dementia expert. …
I see only a self-serving opportunist. …
You are a pathetic panderer of
a fraudulent attention seeker.
Please, take your little cut and paste newsletter, ((she is referring to Dementia Symptom Perspectives))
your self-promoting personal blogging
and go find another cause to support.
You do not belong in a population of truly ill people.
You demean the purpose of DAI.” ((Dementia Alliance International))
— Rose Tyson on 28Apr2015.
Rose obviously still feels the same, as most recent from Rose
(now slightly different eMail since she leaves out one of the 6s, with rose8316)
are excerpts from 03Dec2018 (re my friendship with Susan Suchan)
“Seriously? You have to make Susan all about you?
Let me share something with you….you will never be in the same class as Susan or Dena.
Please stop trying to make people think you were their closest friend.
They walked the walk….you simply talk with no substantive knowledge about dementia.”
— Rose Tyson on 03Dec2018
12 Dec 2018
“… My guess is that you are mentally ill … Schizophrenia …”
— Rose Tyson 12Dec2018
and 25 March 2019
“… You add nothing new in terms of research or insight.
You have nothing to add …”
— Rose Tyson 25Mar2019
Several times i have mentioned conclusions from long-term psychological evaluation by medical doctor specializing in Psychology.
No; will NOT share doctor’s name to have her add it to the list of others she drags thru the mud in her latest rant.
Despite my efforts at positive perspective,
Rants like these usually undermine my confidence (and so writing abilities) for a time .
Rants like these discourage others who may wish to blog or share their conclusions or tips.
… This is the true dis-service for those with dementia, MCI, their core support persons, and others who would lend a hand
— or an encouraging word at appropriate times.
The collective knowledge
and caring spirit
of those who write and share their experiences
should not need to face this vicious criticism
for speaking their truth.
When i realize there is nothing positive in continued relationship with a Bully,
i regularly copy/paste to my “Negative Comments” file,
but then delete.
— i do not wish to get my friends agitated by trying to “protect” me …
and totally distract from the point of each specific blog entry.
That would be counter-productive.
For those wishing to start or continue blog-writing,
YOU are shining stars in the universe,
and i applaud your efforts.
— but watch out for the bullies (like Rose Tyson).
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Remember, Links are on colored text, NOT the pictures.
Harry’s entry on Bullying >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/harry-urban/cyber-bullies/
Kate Swaffer >> https://kateswaffer.com/2015/05/09/not-suffering-bullies/
Index of Other Contributors >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/
List of other Bloggers >> https://truthfulkindness.com/links/
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((Previously, i had a notice here at base of each entry with announcement and Logo for HealthLine 2019 Best Alz Blogs. To my surprise, after HealthLine contacted me in January with fact that i was included in 2019 Best Alz Blogs, then announcing it publically on March 18, ten days later they decided against including writers with Mild Cognitive Impairment, and removed this blog from their listing, leaving only one first-person perspective. Now i am deleting each of those announcements of my inclusion on HealthLine Best Alz Blogs for 2019. i hope they soon decide to include at least one other first-person perspective in their “Best Alzheimers Blogs”.)) >> https://www.healthline.com/health/alzheimers-disease/best-blogs-of-the-year