Effective Listening for Partnership

Tru here with A crucial conversation between my husband and myself, showing he was Listening (and APPLYING what he heard):

We were talking, but i was unable to process the conversation.
When he took a breath i held my hand out
and stopped his flow of words.


i told my husband that
all I understood were the first phrase of the paragraph
and the last phrase of the paragraph.
so all the sentences in the middle might just as well have been said
“blah blah blah.”


He quit talking.
He took me in his arms,
and after a moment he said,


“Okay, Look at me.
Are you listening?”

i nodded.

“I love you …
blah blah blah
… forever.”


Then the waiting tears fell.
It is okay to cry.
Now I can pick myself up and move on.


This was part of a blog entry several years ago,
but with our anniversary
thought it was worth separating for a blog entry of its own.

EFFECTIVE Listening is crucial to good partnering (of any type).



THIS WEEK along with daily Dementia Mentors’ video chats, i may (or may NOT) join
Tue 11 June: Dementia Chats with Lori LaBey. This is twice-monthly recorded TEACHING series involving persons with dementia as experts in Lived Experience. Let me know if YOU would like to participate >> https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyFH7iN6JFUE9oJFbRre0VAFbPWQFQcT6 .
Thurs 13 June: DAA Discussions
This week’s topic is “Traveling Tips”. It will be hosted by Laurie Scherrer at 10am Pacific Time, 11 Mtn, Noon Central, and 1pm Eastern Time. These discussions are free and open to both persons with dementia and care-partners. >> https://daanow.org/our-initiatives/connect-and-engage-with-others/dementia-discussions/ .

Also dont forget upcoming conferences below (which i will NOT be attending as i have no funding):
Jun 20-22: DAA conference in Atlanta GA on June 20-22 >> https://daanow.org and
Jun 24-26: LewyBody LBDA conference in LasVegas June 24-26 >
> http://www.clevelandclinicmeded.com/live/courses/lewy-body-dementia/ .

i hope to attend Teepa Snow’s conference in November, so keep an eye out for that.

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4 thoughts on “Effective Listening for Partnership

  1. ah, yes I totally resemble that remark! Great to see you/ya’lll again. Hope I can be assertive enough to let friends know when it’s ‘blah blah blah’. 😉

    Practice random kindness &
    senseless acts of beauty…

    Karen Creekmore


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