Effective Listening for Partnership

Posted on June 10, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Tru here with A crucial conversation between my husband and myself, showing he was Listening (and APPLYING what he heard):

We were talking, but i was unable to process the conversation.
When he took a breath i held my hand out
and stopped his flow of words.

i told my husband that
all I understood were the first phrase of the paragraph
and the last phrase of the paragraph.
so all the sentences in the middle might just as well have been said
“blah blah blah.”

He quit talking.
He took me in his arms,
and after a moment he said,

“Okay, Look at me.
Are you listening?”

i nodded.

“I love you …
blah blah blah
… forever.”

((Sigh))

Then the waiting tears fell.
It is okay to cry.
Now I can pick myself up and move on.

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This was part of a blog entry several years ago,
but with our anniversary
thought it was worth separating for a blog entry of its own.

EFFECTIVE Listening is crucial to good partnering (of any type).

SCHEDULE:

THIS WEEK along with daily Dementia Mentors’ video chats, i may (or may NOT) join
.
Tue 11 June: Dementia Chats with Lori LaBey. This is twice-monthly recorded TEACHING series involving persons with dementia as experts in Lived Experience. Let me know if YOU would like to participate >> https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyFH7iN6JFUE9oJFbRre0VAFbPWQFQcT6 .
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Thurs 13 June: DAA Discussions.
This week’s topic is “Traveling Tips”. It will be hosted by Laurie Scherrer at 10am Pacific Time, 11 Mtn, Noon Central, and 1pm Eastern Time. These discussions are free and open to both persons with dementia and care-partners. >> https://daanow.org/our-initiatives/connect-and-engage-with-others/dementia-discussions/ .

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Also dont forget upcoming conferences below (which i will NOT be attending as i have no funding):
Jun 20-22: DAA conference in Atlanta GA on June 20-22 >> https://daanow.org and
Jun 24-26: LewyBody LBDA conference in LasVegas June 24-26 >
> http://www.clevelandclinicmeded.com/live/courses/lewy-body-dementia/ .

i hope to attend Teepa Snow’s conference in November, so keep an eye out for that.

* Admin issues: SHARE dementia awareness thru buttons below. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the form of comments, but please filter your comments with truthful loving kindness to all concerned. If interested in receiving notice of future blog postings, subscriptions are available through a “follow” button in the upper left corner (MS Explorer) or lower right (Safari, Mozilla Firefox and Chrome). If there is an advertisement below, I have no control over what is shown. My own full legal name is Truthful Loving Kindness. My current diagnosis is still Mild Cognitive Impairment, but my neurologist said I am in a unique position for helping because I have “one foot in each door”. Text Copyright © Truthful L. Kindness 10Jun2019. Tags are: dementia, Living with Dementia, partnership, PLwD, symptoms.

i am Probably Asleep

Posted on June 2, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Tru here on Saturday.
It has been three years since i have had one of these “events”

Sometimes begins with muscle weakness then moves to nausea etc,
but today’s Began about 10am,
with that feeling of time displacement that i associate with immediacy of brain problems.

You know on sci-Fi films,
when they show just a few moments of time displacement delay?

You are behind yourself, blurred, trying to catch up.
That is what it felt like for me.
Then muscle weakness and nausea followed within about 30seconds.
I didnt find my baby aspirin, but took the full aspirin sitting on countertop.

.*.

Truthfully i have few memories of the past 6 hours.
i know husband (Guy) brought me a cup of soup at some point,
and i ate a little bit before falling asleep again.
i know another time i walked a few feet to the bathroom
and almost didn’t make it due muscle weakness and nausea.
Then went back to sleep again.

i can only call it an “event”,
because even tho i have mild-to-moderate cerebro-vascular disease
doctors have not confirmed that these are small strokes.
They have extensively tested for seizures over the years, but not confirmed that either.
… so i just call it an “event” until we have more conclusions.

October 2016 i had an “event” during the last steps of the last walk i took by myself.
I was on return from the Harbor; it hit when i was almost to the door.
Got in the door and maneuvered to the couch.
We had company at the time, and they walked inside from outdoors.
i tried to tell husband what happened
but no sound came out, and folks were busy talking … so no one noticed.
i tried a couple times more, then fell sleep.
That’s Life.

Yes; i have tried going to hospital a few of the times,
but by the time i am actually seen they cannot really tell me anything.
They test and test and test, but never really any results.
Hospital visit means no rest;
cannot sleep in the waiting room, and too cold to sleep in Emergency Room.
That means the first full day of opportunity for brain cell renewal is Lost.
So unless blatant “stroke” symptoms like slurred speech or paralysis,
i just sleep and sleep and sleep.

After these events my walker is imperative (even inside the house),
as balance and muscle strength can be very unreliable for a few days.

After these events i sleep and sleep and sleep some more.
i figure cell renewal is only possible in sleep,
so any sleep after an “event” is a free ticket for better brain health.

I sleep as much as possible afterward,
usually sleeping almost the full first day and much of the next few days.
Often takes about a week of extra sleep
before i do not feel the need for extra sleep
(other than my standard late-morning-to-noon nap).

So you still wont see me much on FaceBook or other webinars, etc.

If i am not online … then i am probably asleep.

Sunday morning: Slept total 18 hours yesterday; 10 hours during the day plus 8 hours at night. Able to maneuver without walker this morning, but will not attempt doing outside chores. Looking back over my notes from 2016 (when i had about 6 “events”) reminds me to keep the walker REALLY close for a few days, and delay any “exercise” for about a week. Made some revisions to what i wrote, above, and i am headed back to bed.

So, even tho i am not online much this week, want to remind that You are important to me.

SCHEDULE:

THIS WEEK along with daily Dementia Mentors’ video chats, i may (or may NOT) join

DAA Discussions on Thursday.
This week’s topic is “Dementia Friendly & Dementia Friends Initiatives”. It will be hosted by Mike Belleville (with expert Tammy Pozerycki) at 10am Pacific Time, 11 Mtn, Noon Central, and 1pm Eastern Time. These discussions are free and open to both persons with dementia and care-partners. See you there ! >> https://daanow.org/our-initiatives/connect-and-engage-with-others/dementia-discussions/ .

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i hope to attend Teepa Snow’s conference in November, so keep an eye out for that.

* Admin issues: SHARE dementia awareness thru buttons below. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the form of comments, but please filter your comments with truthful loving kindness to all concerned. If interested in receiving notice of future blog postings, subscriptions are available through a “follow” button in the upper left corner (MS Explorer) or lower right (Safari, Mozilla Firefox and Chrome). If there is an advertisement below, I have no control over what is shown. My own full legal name is Truthful Loving Kindness. My current diagnosis is still Mild Cognitive Impairment, but my neurologist said I am in a unique position for helping because I have “one foot in each door”. Text Copyright © Truthful L. Kindness 02Jun2019. Tags are: dementia, Living with Dementia, PLwD, sleep, stroke, symptoms, vascular.

UPDATE: ((Previously, i had a notice here at base of each entry with announcement and Logo for HealthLine 2019 Best Alz Blogs. To my surprise, after HealthLine contacted me in January with fact that i was included in 2019 Best Alz Blogs, then announcing it publically on March 18, ten days later they decided against including writers with Mild Cognitive Impairment, and removed this blog from their listing, leaving only one first-person perspective. Now i am deleting each of those announcements of my inclusion on HealthLine Best Alz Blogs for 2019. i hope they soon decide to include at least one other first-person perspective in their “Best Alzheimers Blogs”.)) >> https://www.healthline.com/health/alzheimers-disease/best-blogs-of-the-year

Context of Appearance

Posted on May 27, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Tru here.
How many teachers have reiterated the importance of context context CONTEXT ?

But since almost 20 years ago i am constantly losing context;
Losing the context of time.
Losing the context of placement or location.
Losing the context of words.

… and losing the context of appearance
(because i expect to see you the way you looked when i was younger).

There is a strange car in the driveway.

i know what our car looks like,
because we bought it just before we married.
We have two matching big blue vans,
and the car now in the driveway is not ours !

i have misplaced the newer context of what i see
… and i dont know where to find it.

Because i have dealt with this symptom for years now,
i know that i will not recognize any cars in driveway … and that is okay.
i know i will not recognize my husband in the morning … and that is okay.
i know that person in the mirror does not look like me … and that is okay.

if i do not recognize the way you look today,
that does not mean you as a person are not important to me.
For me, I still recognize the sound of your voice.
.
For 20years (before my brain began decline)
you almost always wore a State Parks uniform and hat.
You are now retired and no longer wear a uniform to work.
Your hair and beard are now white.
And we live in a different house.
…
But
You discovered green pants were needed.
You found and bought green pants
And sometimes i need a hat covering your head
in order for me to recognize the way you look.

… and that is okay.
because you are VERY important in my life !!!

.
THANK you for investing the time and energy in
Learning more about the situation,
then finding strategies
so that i can continue to recognize you,
my husband.

SCHEDULE:

THIS WEEK along with daily Dementia Mentors’ video chats, i plan to join

Tue 28 May: Dementia Chats with Lori LaBey. This is twice-monthly recorded TEACHING series involving persons with dementia as experts in Lived Experience. Let me know if YOU would like to participate >> https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyFH7iN6JFUE9oJFbRre0VAFbPWQFQcT6 .

Wed 29 May: Teepa Snow “Let’s Talk” is scheduled Wed. May 29: Free webinar session for anyone living with dementia who would like to share ideas, concerns, experiences, partner issues or successes. The topics will be determined by the group. Can be kind-of frustrating working with the registration process, but if you get stuck there is a phone number of someone to help. That is what i needed to do, and so glad Teepa Snow provides a helper for this process. >> https://teepasnow.com/services/online-learning/live-public-webinars/webinars-for-plwd/ .

29/30 May: Dementia Alliance International (DAI) Meeting of the Miinds webinar is scheduled with Neurologist Daniel Potts on Wed/Thurs May 29/30 >> https://www.dementiaallianceinternational.org/may-webinar-learnings-from-patients-and-families-by-dr-daniel-potts/ .

DAA Discussions on Thursday.
This week’s topic is “Hallucinations & Visual Perception”. It will be hosted by Chuck McClatchey at 10am Pacific Time, 11 Mtn, Noon Central, and 1pm Eastern Time. These discussions are free and open to both persons with dementia and care-partners. See you there ! >> https://daanow.org/our-initiatives/connect-and-engage-with-others/dementia-discussions/ .

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But i DO plan to attend Teepa Snow’s conference in November, so keep an eye out for that.

* Admin issues: SHARE dementia awareness thru buttons below. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the form of comments, but please filter your comments with truthful loving kindness to all concerned. If interested in receiving notice of future blog postings, subscriptions are available through a “follow” button in the upper left corner (MS Explorer) or lower right (Safari, Mozilla Firefox and Chrome). If there is an advertisement below, I have no control over what is shown. My own full legal name is Truthful Loving Kindness. My current diagnosis is still Mild Cognitive Impairment, but my neurologist said I am in a unique position for helping because I have “one foot in each door”. Text Copyright © Truthful L. Kindness 27May2019. Tags are: dementia, family, Living with Dementia, memory, PLwD, recognizing family, relationship, symptoms.

Two weeks OFF

Posted on May 20, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Tru here.

I have now returned from two weeks OFF dementia advocacy.
This entry may not be real helpful since it has no strategies;
more of a journal update.

BALANCE is crucial.
Dementia Advocacy is full-time job for me,
and this two weeks has been needed for balance.

My time has been filled with animal-care, self-care, family history, and Dementia Mentors’ video chats;
No social media, No blog, etc.

My need for time-off started with “Gimpy”.
One of the baby Jersey Giant chicks consistently required more care than the other five.
He/she laid down on its side a lot. Within 2 weeks often had its left leg sticking out sideways from his body, then both legs quit working entirely.
The veterinarian said it was probably consequence of incubation time while still inside the egg, and would not improve, but chick was not in pain.
Then both legs stuck out sideways.
Last week his wing quit working and we did the very hard thing;
a new bare spot under the tree where our pets are buried, and Gimpy is no longer with us.

Now one-month old, the Baby chicks are looking like scruffy miniature emu.
Their fur is gone in splotches where feather shafts are beginning to stick thru.
Their personalities are strongly showing.

Jumping “Jack” is still the leader; most athletic, most protective and most adventurous. His elastic ankle-band is yellow for high energy.
Orange-banded “Goober” likes to play with my service-dog Hero
(and this morning Hero climbed up on the couch so he could drop his octopus toy into their box for the Baby chicks to play with).
Then there is “Indy” (short for Independence, with a red band),
Long-stockings has a purple band. (“Sox” likes to stretch a leg then look at it a bit … and maybe give it a scratch or two while it is extended.)
And the littlest is “Sally”. Oddly, she is the chick with most feathers right now.

Will be spending two weeks with Mom in July, working on Family History.
Jump-started family history during these 2weeks.
dna tools at GEDmatch have been beyond me for a couple years.
Now mostly giving up on understanding both that and tools at Family Tree dna.
But Ancestry dna has wonderful tool in Beta-stage, and it is a joy to work with.
Becoming a game-changer for my ability to continue using dna as a tool for Family History research.
Happy Lady.

SCHEDULE:

THIS WEEK along with daily Dementia Mentors’ video chats, i plan to join
DAA Discussions on Thursday.
This week’s topic is “Loosing Sense of Time/Reading Time”. It will be hosted by Laurie Scherrer at 10am Pacific Time, 11 Mtn, Noon Central, and 1pm Eastern Time. These discussions are free and open to both persons with dementia and care-partners. See you there ! >> https://daanow.org/our-initiatives/connect-and-engage-with-others/dementia-discussions/ .

… and later in May:

29 May: Teepa Snow “Let’s Talk” is next scheduled Wed. May 29: Free webinar session for anyone living with dementia who would like to share ideas, concerns, experiences, partner issues or successes. The topics will be determined by the group. Can be kind-of frustrating working with the registration process, but if you get stuck there is a phone number of someone to help. That is what i needed to do, and so glad Teepa Snow provides a helper for this process. >> https://teepasnow.com/services/online-learning/live-public-webinars/webinars-for-plwd/ .

But i DO plan to attend Teepa Snow’s conference in November, so keep an eye out for that.

* Admin issues: SHARE dementia awareness thru buttons below. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the form of comments, but please filter your comments with truthful loving kindness to all concerned. If interested in receiving notice of future blog postings, subscriptions are available through a “follow” button in the upper left corner (MS Explorer) or lower right (Safari, Mozilla Firefox and Chrome). If there is an advertisement below, I have no control over what is shown. My own full legal name is Truthful Loving Kindness. My current diagnosis is still Mild Cognitive Impairment, but my neurologist said I am in a unique position for helping because I have “one foot in each door”. Text Copyright © Truthful L. Kindness 20Apr2019. Tags are: balance, dementia, Living with Dementia, PLwD.

Loss of Filter in Conversation

Posted on May 6, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Tru here.

i have heard the quote,
“If thought bubbles appeared above my head i would be in trouble”.
… well, with dementia
those thought bubbles dont have a filter
so they go straight out the mouth.

…

As i have said before;
For me,
relationships make life worth living.
… but during past years i am in constant tension during relationship interactions.

Moving deeper to the underlying meaning of words in conversation,
taking into consideration the experiences/context of speaker (or writer)
… and then keeping all of that context in mind DURING the interactions
was natural and a flowing part of being
me.

But
conversation now requires copious amounts of energy.
THEN
add the factor of a failing “filter”.

Filter separates what we dont want in a given situation or container, etc,
in order to keep INAPPROPRIATE things separate,
while joining together APPROPRIATE items, thoughts, etc.

Loss of filters;
having troubles with blurting out whatever enters my brain
— without thinking about circumstances and appropriateness.
In past few years do not stop to consider background and history of others,
because i am losing the ability to stop the impulse.

Failing FILTER for what is appropriate in given situation,
and to remember context of the past
in whatever current event (which often modifies emotions)
is just about my top concern for my own brain decline.
it is scary !
so you are NOT alone, my friends !!!

Perhaps another element is FORGETTING context.
i dont know whether i learned this information in a “private” conversation or context.
Dont remember sources for hardly anything unless written down
-then where do i find the written information ?.

In the past,
i think people would have said i was “thoughtful”.
Now, well … not so much.
Must look in other places to see my kindness characteristic,
because i am losing the thought-ability for “thoughtful”
LOL.

i may blurt out Too Much Information and embarrass you … or me.
Many times i have decided there are things i should keep to myself
… and then i discover i have said them,
about me or about others.
If it enters the brain it goes out the mouth.

worry about blabbing inappropriate information in public forum.
So i am losing sleep because i am also dreaming about it.
ugggh !!

Husband has tried stopping me mid-sentence when he realizes i am sharing inappropriately,
but usually by that time so much is out that i might as well finish.

Failing FILTER for what is appropriate,
and to remember context of the past in whatever current event
(which often modifies emotions)
is just about my top concern for my own brain decline.
it is scary !
so you are NOT alone, my friends !!!

Would love to suggest strategies
… but really this is one area that nothing has worked for me.
My one suggestion is do NOT drop relationships as preventative
(unless you are holding secrets of national security, LOL)
If you drop relationships
then you both lose right to start with.
The other person/persons may consider your symptoms
and actually give you grace
in the occassions when you lose your filter.

However,
maybe this entry can help someone from feeling they are the only one in this particular struggle.
Or maybe it can help someone in relationship with a person with dementia.
At any rate, thought i would write it down.

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…

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Related Links.
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will allow you to return to this tab easily (at top of window) when you finish.
Remember, Links are on colored text, NOT the pictures.

” the only secrets I know I can keep … are the ones I forget”

>> https://truthfulkindness.com/2014/10/20/privacy-secrets-and-dementia-symptoms/

“if you don’t want me to spill the beans … don’t put them in the pot”.

>> https://truthfulkindness.com/2015/01/26/hole-in-my-self-control/

* Admin issues: SHARE dementia awareness thru buttons below. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the form of comments, but please filter your comments with truthful loving kindness to all concerned. If interested in receiving notice of future blog postings, subscriptions are available through a “follow” button in the upper left corner (MS Explorer) or lower right (Safari, Mozilla Firefox and Chrome). If there is an advertisement below, I have no control over what is shown. My own full legal name is Truthful Loving Kindness. My current diagnosis is still Mild Cognitive Impairment, but my neurologist said I am in a unique position for helping because I have “one foot in each door”. Text Copyright © Truthful L. Kindness 08Apr2019. Free-to-Edit photo by Shilo at PixArt >> https://picsart.com/i/image-i-hope-you-are-having-a-beautiful-day-my-friends-279495074001201 . Tags are: communication, conversation, dementia, filter, Living with Dementia, PLwD, verbal, relationship.

Recent Pages Apr2019b

Posted on April 29, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Tru here. …

Pages recently added to my blogsite are from:

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will allow you to return to this tab easily (at top of window) when you finish.
Remember, Links are on colored text, NOT the pictures.

Crucial entry from KimJoy Ovard “Roller-Coaster of Primary Progressive Aphasia” >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/kimjoy-ovard/roller-coaster/

Opening FaceBook group for DSP Prayer >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/dsp-fb/dsp-prayer/;

Sgt Andrew Patterson, Scottish Immigrant >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/life-other/family-history-index/sgt-a-patterson/

Index for other contributions here >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/

FamHist Index >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/life-other/family-history-index/

Spiritual Journal >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/life-other/spiritual/

Recent Pages Apr2019a

Posted on April 23, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Tru here. …

Pages recently added to my blogsite are from:

KimJoy Ovard “Intro” >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/kimjoy-ovard/intro/

Video of “Chippewa Song” >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/life-other/family-history-index/chippewa-song/ ;

Keto-Potato Soup >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/life-other/food-recipes/keto-potato-soup/

Index for other contributions here >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/

FamHist Index >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/life-other/family-history-index/

Food >> https://truthfulkindness.com/about/life-other/food-recipes/ ;

Pictures as Words

Posted on April 8, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Tru here.

Some may have noticed that in social media i frequently use pictures now, instead of words,
and i am not the only one.
i think my verbal abilities are just declining much faster than my visual processing skills
(or even my photoShop skills, LOL).

as most know, composing words is much more time-consuming for me now.
A blog entry has increased to usually between 6 and 12 hours.
Having problems even composing brief replies to my dementia friends on social media.

i know i want to say something.
i want to give verbal hug, or tell them they are not alone,
in a way that shows i understand how they are feeling.
… but i cannot find words.

If husband is home then i will call him over and ask for his help composing the words.
if husband is not home, i now have quite a selection of pictures i have put together.
I try to find the picture that matches my feelings best, and just send the picture.
Or i might take the opportunity, and spend an hour or two composing a new picture.
(Sometimes even more time; husband says “very seldom less time”, LOL)

Whether in personal conversation, or textual conversation,
with increasing frequency, i cannot understand OR compile words;
Need pictures to understand what is said
… and need pictures to “speak my mind”.

But i have noticed that i am not the only one;
my dementia friends frequently just send a picture.
No words, just a picture of an animal or flowers, etc.
That shows i am not alone in this challenge ((smile)).

Started this entry,
then found i had already started another entry with the same title.
i suspect this is how i began my selection of pictures. So also attaching it here.
(hmmm; began this entry with 3hrs on 01Feb2019, then worked on it 4 other days,
but now no idea what entry i am talking about here,
or what pictures i am talking about attaching).
Gonna leave this paragraph as “trigger” for possible future remembrance.

…

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Importance of Communication of various types >> https://truthfulkindness.com/2016/01/26/import-communication-pwd/ ;

My New Normal >> https://truthfulkindness.com/2014/07/26/my-new-normal/ ;

Tab/Communication >> https://truthfulkindness.com/?s=communication ;

* Admin issues: SHARE dementia awareness thru buttons below. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the form of comments, but please filter your comments with truthful loving kindness to all concerned. If interested in receiving notice of future blog postings, subscriptions are available through a “follow” button in the upper left corner (MS Explorer) or lower right (Safari, Mozilla Firefox and Chrome). If there is an advertisement below, I have no control over what is shown. My own full legal name is Truthful Loving Kindness. My current diagnosis is still Mild Cognitive Impairment, but my neurologist said I am in a unique position for helping because I have “one foot in each door”. Text Copyright © Truthful L. Kindness 08Apr2019. Tags are: communication, dementia, pictures, PLwD, verbal, visual, words, writing.

Rose Tyson, Dementia Bully

Posted on April 1, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Naming the Shamer.

in my opinion,
there is a huge vulnerability in sharing our thoughts online, so we must have hard shell to deflect criticism.

Regardless of my efforts to retain a positive attitude and attempts to find worthy topics to discuss on my blog,
every time i receive one of these letters Blaming and Shaming,
i find myself spending an hour or two in re-evaluation.

Yes; this person is obviously a Bully, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are always wrong in their conclusions.

PERHAPS she is right.

Despite my efforts to share from others, is this blog really self-promoting ?

Perhaps i really DON’T really have anything valuable to add to the conversation.

.
Obviously some folks feel that my blog is un-helpful and demeaning.
Is it worth the effort to write and SHARE my thoughts ?
Does it really assist folks now, or will it assist folks in the future ?

Is blogging really worth it ??

Online Bullying is becoming so prevalent that i have decided to begin naming names.
Rose was one of the first … and is also the most recent.

Rose Tyson (rose83616) began her negative comments with 8 paragraphs on 28 Apr 2015.
Excerpts are:
“I see no formal educational credentials that give credence to your right to speak as a dementia expert. …
I see only a self-serving opportunist. …
You are a pathetic panderer of
ego stroking,
a fraudulent attention seeker.

Please, take your little cut and paste newsletter, ((she is referring to Dementia Symptom Perspectives))
your self-promoting personal blogging
and go find another cause to support.
You do not belong in a population of truly ill people.
You demean the purpose of DAI.” ((Dementia Alliance International))
— Rose Tyson on 28Apr2015.

Rose obviously still feels the same, as most recent from Rose
(now slightly different eMail since she leaves out one of the 6s, with rose8316)
are excerpts from 03Dec2018 (re my friendship with Susan Suchan)
“Seriously? You have to make Susan all about you?
Let me share something with you….you will never be in the same class as Susan or Dena.
Please stop trying to make people think you were their closest friend.

They walked the walk….you simply talk with no substantive knowledge about dementia.”
— Rose Tyson on 03Dec2018

(above is a treasured photo of Susan and me)

12 Dec 2018
“… My guess is that you are mentally ill … Schizophrenia …”
— Rose Tyson 12Dec2018

and 25 March 2019
“… You add nothing new in terms of research or insight.

You have nothing to add …”
— Rose Tyson 25Mar2019

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Several times i have mentioned conclusions from long-term psychological evaluation by medical doctor specializing in Psychology.
No; will NOT share doctor’s name to have her add it to the list of others she drags thru the mud in her latest rant.

Despite my efforts at positive perspective,
Rants like these usually undermine my confidence (and so writing abilities) for a time .
Rants like these discourage others who may wish to blog or share their conclusions or tips.
… This is the true dis-service for those with dementia, MCI, their core support persons, and others who would lend a hand
— or an encouraging word at appropriate times.

The collective knowledge
and caring spirit
of those who write and share their experiences
should not need to face this vicious criticism
for speaking their truth.

When i realize there is nothing positive in continued relationship with a Bully,
i regularly copy/paste to my “Negative Comments” file,
but then delete.
— i do not wish to get my friends agitated by trying to “protect” me …
and totally distract from the point of each specific blog entry.
That would be counter-productive.

For those wishing to start or continue blog-writing,
YOU are shining stars in the universe,
and i applaud your efforts.

— but watch out for the bullies (like Rose Tyson).
— Tru

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Harry’s entry on Bullying >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/harry-urban/cyber-bullies/

Kate Swaffer >> https://kateswaffer.com/2015/05/09/not-suffering-bullies/

Index of Other Contributors >> https://truthfulkindness.com/index-persons-with-dementia-pwd/

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FaceBook Friends (FaceBook Strategies 2)

Posted on March 25, 2019 by Truthful Kindness

Tru here with second of two (2) FaceBook items regarding FaceBook Strategies:

This is speaking directly to my FaceBook friends living with dementia,
regarding FaceBook “FRIEND” status.

When someone asks for FaceBook (FB) “friend” status
and you see my name as mutual friend
that does NOT insure you will enjoy having them as a “friend”.
it does NOT mean they will be Truthful, Loving, or Kind.

However it DOES mean there is a good chance they said they are living with some type of dementia,
or a smaller chance they are a fellow dementia advocate as care-partner or professional.

i have many FB “friends” who are full of anger and bitterness. At times they can reflect that in hateful comments.
Also, many MANY folks have simultaneous conditions going on, — sometimes psychological conditions.
So my primary purpose for using FaceBook “notifications” tool is in order to by-pass FaceBook “news Feed”
( where many of the hate-ful comments and pictures are viewed ).
“Notifications” are very seldom forwarding what someone else says or other folk’s pictures.
Mostly it is pictures or words directly from my FaceBook “friend”.
That does not eliminate viewing the anger and bitterness, but it minimizes seeing it … as Long as i avoid FB “news Feed”.

Don’t get me wrong; i also have many FB friends who are very supportive, truthful, loving, and kind.

i am just saying, do NOT approve a “friend” request just because i am mutual FB friend. Check them out.

We need to be careful about who we accept for our FaceBook “friends”.
i get close to 3 FaceBook “friend” requests per day.
I probably accept 2 FaceBook “friend” requests per WEEK.

No matter how many “mutual friends” there are, i send them a private message with the following:

“”Tru here.
Thanks for offer of FB “friend” status.
Are YOU a fellow person living with dementia symptoms … or where do i know you from ?””

i do NOT add as FB friend until they answer me, regardless of how many mutual friends we have.

When they answer with talk about my picture, or just wanting to “get to know” me ( which is most of them )
i delete most — and report them to FB as Scam.
Sometimes i can see that i do not want that person as “friend” from pictures on their personal page,
or if male and ALL their FB friends are female.
Most of the others, I suggest we can keep in contact at Dementia Symptom Perspectives’ FB page & send Link.
The few who tell me they are living with dementia, those i seriously consider.

!!! Gotta be careful ,
and dementia symptoms strongly impact how many folks we can keep track of, on and off FaceBook !!!

Part 1 >> https://truthfulkindness.com/2019/03/22/facebook-strategies-1/

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